Articles tagged with: newly diagnosed

Feeling like a disaster

published: March, 31, 2016 Categories // Gay Men, Newly Diagnosed, Living with HIV, Population Specific

Two years into his diagnosis, Toronto guy Josh’s faith in himself and his need to move on is shaken by a phone call from his former boyfriend wanting to connect again

Feeling like a disaster

I’m not sure how else to put this, so let me just be blunt: fuck, life is complicated.  I’ve been making good progress in, well, life lately; I started a new job, I’ve made some new friends and I’m continuing to work through things with a therapist who has helped me deal with the trauma of infidelity and an HIV diagnosis. While it’s almost been two years, I still am coming through the proverbial tunnel.  So why is it, then, that a simple phone call, derails my life and leaves me

Adventures in HIV: celebrating D-Day, part two

published: February, 04, 2016 Written by // Rob Olver - Editor Categories // Activism, Gay Men, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Population Specific , Rob Olver - Editor

Twelve month’s later - in which Rob Olver sees that his HIV diagnosis is not God's way of telling him to fuck off.

Adventures in HIV: celebrating D-Day, part two

 “Flesh is magic, dancing on a clock.” – Leonard Cohen, “God Is Alive, Magic Is Afoot”. / So four days previous I had turned sixty two. I was set to retire at the end of the month and now I had tested positive for HIV. I'd been struggling already to understand what retirement might mean to me and in truth I hadn't got much beyond some rosy vision of lawn bowling, cucumber sandwiches and cranky letters to the editor. Frankly, I didn't think it was for me. But what in hell was the di

“Good Grief!”

published: January, 25, 2016 Categories // Gay Men, Newly Diagnosed, Mental Health, Health, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Population Specific

Steven Hobé tells the story of his life with HIV. In Part Seven he relates his HIV diagnoses with the ten stages of grief. Right now “I hazard a guess I’m somewhere between stages Seven and Eight (Depression & Loneliness / Re-entry Troubles).”

“Good Grief!”

I admit I’m already pretty familiar with the Stages of Grief. I got a healthy taste of its chaotic computations when my father passed away nearly twenty years ago. At the time, it felt kind of like being on a roller coaster with no time to barf.  But glibness aside, if I was to try and encapsulate my own experience with Grief I would describe it as being like the ebb and flow of an ocean. Just as the ocean moves in and out, so too do our emotions, as they ebb and flow, oscillating between

Adventures in HIV: Celebrating D-Day, Part One:

published: January, 04, 2016 Written by // Rob Olver - Editor Categories // Gay Men, Newly Diagnosed, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Rob Olver - Editor

In which Robert Olver joins the HIV club and gets to grips with a bang with his new reality

Adventures in HIV: Celebrating D-Day, Part One:

“OK, so we’ve just seen two dots form on the testing membrane and that means you’ve tested positive for HIV.”  Nothing really prepares you for this. It’s the evening of October 14, 2014 and at this point I’ve been testing negative for HIV for longer than some of you have been alive. I think I’m fairly well informed and I believe myself to be at minimal risk. I’ve come into Toronto for my regular test yet again (since you can’t get an anonymous HIV test in Peterborough, wher

Who I have become

published: October, 30, 2015 Categories // Gay Men, Newly Diagnosed, Mental Health, Health, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Population Specific

Toronto’s Josh says HIV has made him a better, kinder, more understanding person.

Who I have become

Over the weekend, I had a bit of a battle with food poisoning. While it mostly left me by this afternoon, it was one of the few times I’ve got something outside of a cold since my HIV diagnosis. While food poisoning can make anybody feel weak, miserable and grumpy, I almost felt defeated. I almost felt defeated because I felt like it was taking more of my strength to fight it off than it would have before this all happened. I think some of that is definitely in my head, but I think there’s

“Stay Tuned”

published: October, 21, 2015 Categories // Gay Men, Newly Diagnosed, Living with HIV, Population Specific

Steven Hobé tells the story of his life with HIV. Part four sees him, shortly after diagnosis, grappling with returning to work, disclosure and treatment for his other health issues

“Stay Tuned”

The first order of business after my multiple diagnoses day was to take care of the syphilis. This meant two injections of penicillin in the ass, once a week, for three consecutive weeks.  The first week, I whimpered; the second, I pleaded; and by the third week I had resigned myself to the discomfort and humiliation of dropping my draws, and having a thick liquid forced through a syringe into each butt cheek. Then having to waddle home, looking as though I was severely constipated.  Ironi

Youth and the aboriginal way

published: October, 13, 2015 Written by // Bob Leahy - Publisher Categories // Youth, Features and Interviews, Living with HIV, Population Specific , Bob Leahy - Publisher

Bob Leahy talks to Preston Leon, the young man from BC’s interior diagnosed at 16 we have featured here before, about the influence aboriginal ways have had on his journey as a young gay man living with HIV

Youth and the aboriginal way

Bob Leahy: Hi Preston: Thanks for talking to PositiveLite.com again. Now I want to jump in and say right away that I know you are aboriginal, I know, you're gay or two-spirited and I know that you are HIV-positive. Those are three factors which individually and collectively can lead to discrimination.  Preston Leon: Well, in this town I can’t go around thinking it’s OK if I kiss my partner; it’s probably worse on the reservation itself. The elders, in certain cases, won’t accept it.

Calling the shots

published: October, 12, 2015 Written by // Guest Authors - Revolving Door Categories // Gay Men, Newly Diagnosed, Living with HIV, Population Specific , Revolving Door, Guest Authors

Guesting UK blogger Leigh from Reimagined_Me with an exceptionally told tale of being newly diagnosed with HIV. In part two he talks about the day he got the news he was HIV-positive.

Calling the shots

Calling the shots I woke and dressed and it was now early evening. The taxi arrived very quickly and we were on our way to Kings College Hospital in Camberwell, London. Checked myself in to the hospital and took a seat in the waiting area. After answering many questions at the front desk and then similar questions again with the triage nurse, I was eventually called through to see a doctor. Questions. Blood samples. Questions. Tests. Questions. Poked, prodded and more questions. I was asked

Life after my HIV diagnosis (2014) Part Two

published: October, 12, 2015 Written by // Guest Authors - Revolving Door Categories // Newly Diagnosed, Living with HIV, Population Specific , Revolving Door, Guest Authors

Guest RYU Matsumoto from The Philippines talks about the changes he’s seen in his life since being diagnosed last year. In part two he’s betrayed by his boyfriend disclosing RYU’s status to his employer, leaves one job to find anoither – and a new friend

Life after my HIV diagnosis (2014) Part Two

I really didn’t want to believe what my mom said, but I one thing’s for sure. I had to know the truth.  The confrontation On the same day I discovered that my boyfriend did tell my team manager about my situation (which already happened a few months ago), I immediately sent him a message asking him about what he did a few months ago. To make the story short, he did tell me the truth. “Yes, I did tell our team manager about your situation. I just can’t carry the burden anymore.” E

The un-dead

published: October, 06, 2015 Categories // Gay Men, Living with HIV, Population Specific

Steven Hobé tells the story of his life with HIV. Part three sees him, freshly diagnosed, on Toronto’s Church Street observing Halloween and realizing at this surreal moment he’s reached a turning point

The un-dead

I’ve never been a huge fan of Halloween. It doesn’t even exist in England where I grew up. They are a little more blood thirsty in nature, celebrating Bonfire Night every November 5th, to commemorate the date that Guy Fawkes tried to blow up the houses of parliament during the reign of James I.  It was a yearly event that our school would spend a day stuffing clothes full of straw to make the effigy of a man, Mr. Fawkes; then, in the evening, build a huge bonfire, on which they placed an

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