Articles tagged with: love sex and relationships

That time I had sex with another queer cripple

published: June, 09, 2015 Categories // Gay Men, Population Specific , Sex and Sexuality

Our neg guy on wheels Andrew Morrison-Gurza says he’s never been more excited in his whole life

That time I had sex with another queer cripple

He was my first. I have never been more excited or more utterly terrified of anything in my whole life. The thought of us being together made my heart race, and other parts of me stand at attention. It started out like any other hook up; we met online, discussed our likes and dislikes. I remember that his pictures didn't immediately signify he was disabled...  "So, before we go any further... I should tell you, I am in a wheelchair," he said. I know what he was probably feeling; the potentia

Abuse has many forms: part three

published: June, 04, 2015 Categories // Dating, Gay Men, Newly Diagnosed, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Population Specific

Toronto's Josh and his three-part story of a relationship gone sour that rocked his natural resiliency. Today: the positive HIV test – and the forgiveness that followed

Abuse has many forms: part three

If you haven’t had a chance to read part one, you can find it here and part two here.   Dreading the expected There was more to the one-night fling that Alex had than he had first told me. I would come to learn through messages he sent that weekend that it was a “flip-flop” situation between the two of them, and was not done safely. Alex’s unsafe sex with a stranger had changed his life forever and put me at risk too. I didn’t even know how to react. I was in the middle of nowh

Abuse has many forms: part two

published: June, 03, 2015 Categories // Dating, Gay Men, Newly Diagnosed, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Population Specific

Toronto's Josh and his three-part story of a relationship gone sour that rocked his natural resiliency. Today: betrayed

Abuse has many forms: part two

If you haven’t had a chance to read part one, you can find it here.   I apologize for the length of this post, it’s quite long. Time marches on, to red flag number four Three months went by, and each day things got a little easier. The holidays rolled around and I spent much-needed time with friends and family. It was the typical recovery from a breakup. Life was slowly going on. One thing about me, in my personal life, is that I’m very active on social media. I keep an updated Lin

The odds of love

published: June, 03, 2015 Written by // Mark S. King - My Fabulous Disease Categories // Dating, Gay Men, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Population Specific , Mark S. King

Congratulations are definitely in order. Mark S. King is marrying the man he met three years ago at the 2012 International AIDS Conference in Washington

The odds of love

This post will never be as romantic as I would like it to be. And it could never be as romantic as the truth.  On the evening of July 22, 2012, Michael Mitchell went to a mixer at Cobalt, a gay club in Washington, DC. The international AIDS conference was being held in town and Michael, a DC resident who had once served as director of an AIDS agency, decided on a whim to go check it out. I had been shooting video all day for my conference coverage for TheBody.com, and thought the name of th

Abuse has many forms: part one

published: June, 02, 2015 Categories // Dating, Gay Men, Newly Diagnosed, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Population Specific

Toronto's Josh and his three-part story of a relationship gone sour that rocked his natural resiliency. Today: the red flags

Abuse has many forms: part one

One thing I’ve always prided myself on is my resiliency. I can deal with a lot of shit that has been thrown my way in life, and I bounce back pretty quick. Being diagnosed with HIV has been a massive test of that resiliency, and I haven’t come back as quickly from this setback as I have with others. In time, though, things will come back.  I want to go back a little bit, because I realized that, for too long, I allowed myself to be hurt and yes, even abused by someone. I’m ashamed that

Hello my name is Tom. Fancy a date?

published: May, 20, 2015 Written by // Guest Authors - Revolving Door Categories // Dating, Gay Men, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Population Specific , Sex and Sexuality , Revolving Door, Guest Authors

“Ever since being diagnosed HIV-positive nearly three years ago, my dating game has changed or completely disappeared to put it more accurately. I actually can’t remember the last time I went on a date, I can’t even remember the last time I had sex."

Hello my name is Tom. Fancy a date?

This article By Tom Knight @TJ_Knight / Facebook.com/TKnight86 originally appeared in FS Magazine, a publication of GMFA, here.  Relationship status – As single as one person could possibly be So another Valentine’s Day has come and gone and surprise surprise, I ended up in front of my TV. But with company, in the form of my two cats Mia and Sky *Cue sympathetic aw*. It’s not for the want of being single, but ever since being diagnosed HIV-positive, now nearly three years ago, my dat

Too much sex?

published: May, 04, 2015 Written by // Félix Garmendía Categories // Gay Men, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Media, Opinion Pieces, Population Specific , Sex and Sexuality , Félix Garmendía

Being poz and sex positive in New York City in the 90s, Felix Garmendia was asked by the Advocate magazine back then “how much sex is too much?”. Now writing, for PositiveLite.com he provides an update.

Too much sex?

In the summer of 1997, I received a call from a friend asking me if I wanted to be interviewed by The Advocate. I asked my friend, "Why on earth would The Advocate be interested in interviewing me?" The Advocate was looking for HIV-positive men who were sexually active and would be interested in sharing their experiences in an interview. I accepted the offer. The interview mostly dealt with my active sexual life then, and my opinions about how to have multiple partners and still act responsib

Sero-sorting in tiny town

published: April, 21, 2015 Written by // Michael Yoder Categories // Dating, Gay Men, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Population Specific , Michael Yoder

Michael Yoder says that in small towns, the chances of meeting openly poz guys are few and far between. Sero-sorting remains, for him, an elusive but attractive theory.

Sero-sorting in tiny town

“much of a muchness…”  Unknown  I’ve reached the point where sero-sorting seems an increasingly attractive option. I’ve had it up to my eyebrows with “neg” guys who just don’t get it or are otherwise uninformed about HIV and other STIs. The number of men who are completely unaware about safer sex (including gay men) is alarming.  So, a’sorting I will go.  Ooops – road block number one. I’m in a small city. It’s conservative and closeted. There are a lot of guys

Cruise ship

published: April, 20, 2015 Written by // Alex Sparrowhawk Categories // Dating, Gay Men, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Population Specific , Alex Sparrowhawk

Alex Sparrowhawk reflects on his five year relationship with the right man - and why it works

Cruise ship

I once said that I wasn’t afraid to rock the boat, “I’d even capsize it“… but I look back now and think that wasn’t quite right.  I don’t want to sink this ship, I want to build something bigger – and better, stronger. I don’t want to rock my pedalo – I want to launch a cruise ship. I’ll warn everyone now, this is off the cuff; my usual posts are drafted a couple of times, even the short ones (I know they’re all short) and then I upload them when I’m happy. But thi

How do you handle a problem like neurosis?

published: March, 31, 2015 Written by // Matt Levine Categories // Dating, Gay Men, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Population Specific , Sex and Sexuality , Matt Levine

Growing up gay in the 70’s and wanting to be liked, Matt Levine was lucky enough to have never had any problem with his peers. He wasn’t bullied by any straight men but when it came to navigating nightlife gay men were a serious problem.

How do you handle a problem like neurosis?

Fat, nice & funny.  And now gay too  I realized I was gay when I was eleven. Summer was over and I couldn’t wait to see my good friend John O’Connell when school started. We had lots of fun – strictly platonic – in Mrs. Rothshield’s 5th grade class and we didn’t see each other much over the summer. But the fates had a different plan in store. John and I we were in different 6th grade classes. At first I didn’t understand why I felt so sad, so bad, so crestfallen. And

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