Articles tagged with: love sex and relationships

Am I really a dirty barebacking slut?

published: September, 23, 2015 Written by // Guest Authors - Revolving Door Categories // Dating, Gay Men, Sexual Health, Health, Revolving Door, Guest Authors, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Population Specific , Sex and Sexuality

From FS magazine a poz writer from the UK on value judgments of some gay men “They are negative because they've been ‘good’. You are positive because you are ‘a dirty barebacking slut’.”

Am I really a dirty barebacking slut?

This article by Jamie Jinx first appeared in FS magazine, a publication of GMFA, here.  I had the good fortune to receive an online solicitation from 'Sh1tEater' who was in search of a 'feeder'. He kindly sent me a full body and face picture – depressingly rather hot – yet all he had to say for himself was “No Poz”. At first, I felt I ought to excuse my inability to pinch off a Neg turd for his oral delight. Then I remembered that, unlike hepatitis and a host of other horrors, HIV is

Home alone

published: September, 11, 2015 Written by // Bob Leahy - Publisher Categories // Dating, Gay Men, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Population Specific , Bob Leahy - Publisher

Bob Leahy on being temporarily single again and why he thinks being partnered has advantages for people living with HIV – as well as “practically challenged” people like himself

Home alone

My partner is going away for ten days, out West on business, leaving yours truly to fend for himself, home alone. No big deal, except it has rarely happened in our 34 years of living together. Interestingly it opens up all kinds of issues that as a partnered person are not usually on my radar. Basic things like how quiet is a house occupied by one. How helpless is the single occupant to things going wrong and requiring fixing when that occupant is practically-challenged.  How lonely one coul

I’m not ready

published: August, 26, 2015 Categories // Dating, Gay Men, Newly Diagnosed, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Population Specific

Toronto’s Josh decides he’s not yet ready to get back in to the dating pool.

I’m not ready

This weekend, I went away with a group of friends. It was a lovely, relaxing and much needed weekend. Sure, I was feeling a little under the weather (a little bit of a summer cold that manifested itself as dizziness on Thursday and then a mildly sore throat on Friday) but I definitely needed the time away.  I’ve said in the past that I haven’t really thought about dating much, and when I have that I’ve come to the conclusion that I think I’ll be more happier just doing my own thing.

My anniversary

published: August, 10, 2015 Written by // Patrick Italo Ettenes Categories // Dating, Gay Men, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Population Specific , Patrick Italo Ettenes

Not settling for second best, Patrick Ettenes on the relationship insecurities that can come with living with HIV – and how to be rid of them

My anniversary

August is a memorable month for me. On the 17th I am reminded that this is the day that I sat with a stranger and was told that my life will be different for the rest of my life. I was alone and 11 years later I will sit alone and face another reminder that I’m single and still havw a battle ahead of me. But it’s not all bad. I just had a reminder that I am better off single and that the issues I face are my own and not anyone else's. So on 17th August I will have a lovely meal for one

The sex diaries of T.C. Pomeroy, part five

published: July, 31, 2015 Categories // Gay Men, Living with HIV, Population Specific , Sex and Sexuality

For adults only. Poz erotica: tripping on mushrooms, human sominex, California disease and the pocket pool syndrome

The sex diaries of T.C. Pomeroy, part five

Lately I’ve come to remember something I discovered in 2010 while tripping on mushrooms when visiting Manhattan.  I had a week off from taking care of my mother and after four days on the Delaware shore drove north to the City where friends left their keys with their doorman in their swank apartment on 23rd and 10th.  The plan was simple.  I’d drop off my luggage at the apartment before heading north to the Upper West Side where I knew street parking was easy, take my bicycle off the

Return to the scene

published: July, 28, 2015 Categories // Dating, Gay Men, Newly Diagnosed, Mental Health, Health, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Population Specific

Still dealing with the aftermath of a relationship that went bad, Toronto's Josh says “I feel like there’s still a lot of work to do on my mental health. And I’m open about that, and am taking the steps I need to take to do that.”

Return to the scene

This past weekend, the view above was my front yard. It was a much-needed getaway with two very dear friends, at their family cottage. Despite the sunshine, the great company and the amazing location, I was anxious.  Why was I anxious? Well, this is the place where things became real for me. This is the place I was on my way to just over a year ago when Alex told me I needed to go and get tested for HIV. I was afraid that, in coming back here, all those awful memories would be stirred up at

Resilient

published: June, 30, 2015 Categories // Dating, Gay Men, Newly Diagnosed, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Population Specific

Toronto's Josh with more fall-out from his broken relationship that saw him write the powerful three-part series here “Abuse has Many Forms”.

Resilient

Earlier this week I had a call from a phone number that I didn’t recognize; the phone number was coming from the United States, and given that I know only one person who lives there (and not from the state that was coming up in the caller ID), I ignored it. After all, I’ve had unknown callers before and regretted answering the phone.  A few minutes after the call was ignored, I had a notification for a voicemail. Figuring I needed to clear out a spam voicemail from “Mariott Hotels”,

My week in LA (Waiting for my close-up pt. two)

published: June, 29, 2015 Categories // Dating, Gay Men, Arts and Entertainment, Television, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Population Specific

Our NYC guy Positively Dating has been in Los Angeles pitching TV ideas, including one based on his Positively Dating column here. How California cool is that?

My week in LA (Waiting for my close-up pt. two)

I may be a stereotypical cynical New Yorker, but I think the people in LA are a little too nice. Even the crazy homeless people looked like they lived off of organic kale smoothies and pure sunshine.  It freaked me out. Wait, let me back up a bit…  When I started my blog, one of the first things I wrote about was how there are very few depictions of people living with HIV from this century on TV or film. Things are changing, like the Eddie on Looking, but mainly if we see anyone on TV or

Quiet and alone

published: June, 17, 2015 Categories // Dating, Gay Men, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Population Specific

Toronto's Josh reflects, post-relationship, on the quiet moments and what they mean to him

Quiet and alone

All my life, I’ve been a quiet person when it comes to talking about my relationships and love life. I’m intensely private, and to be honest, I don’t know why. Logically, I’m aware that love is something that should be celebrated and shared. But it’s not something I’m comfortable doing.  It didn’t help that Alex didn’t want to meet my friends (and to be honest, I was okay with it because it meant I didn’t have to talk about things with my friends – even my best friend). I

Poz Women Share their Stories: “What doesn’t kill you”

published: June, 15, 2015 Written by // Guest Authors - Revolving Door Categories // Women, Revolving Door, Guest Authors, Living with HIV, Population Specific

A week of women’s stories. The fifth is by Aditi from an anthology of stories of South Asian positive women, all members of a Toronto-based support group run by the Alliance for South Asian AIDS Prevention (ASAAP)

Poz Women Share their Stories:  “What doesn’t kill you”

This story first appeared in More than Fiction, a publication of ASAAP  which you can read online here.  I was the youngest child of a very big family, and was raised by my grandma whom I loved with all my heart. When I was in high school, I met a guy and we started dating. We eloped. I got pregnant and he left me back home with his mother. I gave birth, and got very sick and lost a lot of blood. I needed a blood transfusion, so one of my family members said that if he couldn’t save my li

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