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An optimistic perspective on 2014

Monday, 13 January 2014 Categories // Social Media, Gay Men, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Population Specific

Christian Dolan with his plans for 2014, including launching his own website, Positive Wise

An optimistic perspective on 2014

We are already a few weeks into 2014 and it has been a very interesting start to the year!

The end of 2014  was interesting.  The day after Christmas I was dumped via Whatsapp by the guy I was seeing – a cowards’ way out in my opinion. His reasoning – he was away for Christmas up in Derby (which is about visiting family and didn’t want to go into 2014 not happy. Why wasn’t he happy? I wasn’t prepared to be his ‘dirty little secret’ from his disapproving family and said he needed to face it head on but quite frankly he couldn’t. For a 31 year old he definitely didn’t seem to be able to stand his own ground!)

Enough of that; the main thing is I could do better (these were the words of friends of mine, not from my own mouth). So what do I do in times like this? I exercise (before I would get a bottle of wine and 20 cigarettes, but gone are those days) so I started my half marathon training!

2013 bought the writer within out of me and I am thankful to Bob Leahy of for this (thank you Bob!) and for giving me the opportunity to become a regular writer on here. I appeared in magazines and did a radio interview on World AIDS day. So I thought to myself, “How can I top this in 2014?”

I don’t do ‘New Year’s Resolutions’ as such as I believe that if we really are willing to accomplish a goal we shouldn’t have to have an event like the turn of a new calendar year to achieve this. However it is that time of year when goals are reviewed, set and worked towards. I decided 2014 was to be a theme of commitment, hard work and honesty.

Commitment and perseverance is necessary to gain achievement. I really enjoy writing for and reading other articles on, so I reactivated my twitter account just after the New Year and got stuck in again. For a while I have wanted to start up my own site so thought this would be my pet project. I would like to thank Bob, everyone at and also some of my twitter followers, who have been an inspiration to me when it comes to this.  My site, Positive Wise launches today and I am very excited to see how this develops this year and would love you all to visit and give me feedback and let me know what you want to see.

If you are reading this and you are unsure how you see 2014, maybe you see it as a daunting year ahead, set yourself small, short term, achievable goals. Even if it is something like making sure you get your required daily  fruit and veg or making sure you recycle properly, it all makes a difference to someone even if we don’t always see it.

Maybe you work really hard and want to have a break. Book a holiday. Last year I toured Europe and this Summer I am heading to San Francisco for the first time and exploring Lake Tahoe and Yosemite National Park (and of course get to a GIANTS game and explore Alcatraz - something I’ve wanted to do ever since I saw Jerry Bruckheimer’s movie “The Rock”)

Aim to become someone’s inspiration, tackle something or visit somewhere you have never been before. Life is a gift after all so we need (I know I have said this before) to grab it by its horns and take control of it.

I’m looking forward to what issues I can tackle and discuss on here in 2014 and really excited for your opinions. I want to go from the mild to the wild controversial risqué topics, as I think sometimes we are fearful to tackle these but they happen and take place and exist (Bareback sex, legal high’s and Grindr stories anyone?  Here comes that awkward feeling, yep there it is!)

I hope everyone had a fantastic festive holiday and have entered 2014 on a high. Here’s to what it has to offer!