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Aug26

The Roy Orbison Tribute Post

Friday, 26 August 2011 Written by // Wayne Bristow - Positive Life Categories // Arts and Entertainment, Wayne Bristow

The Soundtrack To My Life - Part One:, Because Life Goes On

The Roy Orbison Tribute Post

When I’m doing my advocating, writing or photography, I usually do it while listening to music. Lately I have thought, if I were to make the soundtrack to my life, who and what would be on it?

As far back as I can remember I've liked music and being raised only by my Mom I must get it from her. My Mom had quite the collection of records, some of it was early rock and roll like Roy Orbison. She had his greatest hits record and I think she still has it somewhere. It was one of my favourites. She also had some country music like Loretta Lynn, Jean Shepard, Roy Drusky and I think there was a Kitty Wells in there. I remember hearing her sing along with songs on the radio, especially Patsy Cline. I honestly used to think she was Patsy Cline because when she sang along they sounded so much alike. I think if she wasn't so shy about singing in public, she could still belt one off at a Karaoke bar, no problem.

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In 1964 I was all but 10 years old when the next big thing came alone - The Beatles coming to North America. We followed all of the hype on the radio and 6 o'clock news. We fell right into all that hype too. We saw the movies when they came out, sat with the screaming girls in the movie theatre, as if they would be heard by them. There were Beatle boots being sold at a shoe repair shop in town and we did get a pair. I remember buying the bubble gum cards, collecting them all to make the puzzle that was on the back of them. A complete set now could sell for several hundreds of dollars online. The only thing we didn't get was the permission to let our hair grow. Grrrrrrrr!

I really liked the Rock & Roll that they now call Classic Rock, so many of those songs bring back a memory or two from my past but I won't list all of them, some were not smart and others I'd really like to forget. Let’s just say, too much partying!

Then came the 80's and oh what a time that was. So many different styles of music became popular, much of it was very good too. Hair Bands were huge, no pun intended, Techno Pop was very big and people started to dance again. Near the end of that era, it all brought me back to Roy Orbison. He came out with a brilliant album called "Mystery Girl" and just before it came out he had a hit with k.d. Lang, on a remake of his song "Crying". I started getting back to the Roots Rock and singer/songwriter type music. Now I was listening to John (Cougar) Mellencamp, Bruce Springsteen, Tom Petty, and John Fogerty. I even found some lesser known writers like Joe Ely, T Bone Burnette and Billy Burnette. If it had twangling guitars, it was on my playlist.

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I am not much for concert shows on records/CD's/DVD's but I have found a few very good ones. Again I'm going to mention Roy Orbison. His "A Black And White Night" was recorded in black and white on September 30 1987 as a television special, containing 17 of his hits. It really is one amazing piece of music history. T Bone Burnette was the musical director; he also played along side rock legends like, Bob Dylan, Bruce Springsteen, Tom Waits, Elvis Costello, Jeff Lynne, Jackson Browne, J.D. Souther and Steven Soles. The female background singers were k.d. Lang, Jennifer Warnes and Bonnie Raitt and the backing band was the TCB Band, Elvis's band from 1969 up until his death.

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In 1988 I was again happy to see Roy Orbison as part of a "super group", the Traveling Wilburys. Here he teamed up with George Harrison, Bob Dylan, Tom Petty and Jeff Lynne. What a great sound they had, very roots rock. Roy's death on December 6th 1988 saw the Wilburys pay tribute to him in the last video from the first CD, on the song "End Of The Line". When you hear Roy sing, you see his guitar rocking in a chair. I believe if he was still with us today he would still be making great music and I’d have more songs to add to my soundtrack.

 

 

 

Aug26

OPEN SESAME (STREET) -- FEAR, LOATHING and the IMPENDING “MUPTIALS”

Friday, 26 August 2011 Categories // Arts and Entertainment, Television, Opinion Pieces

Stephen Lincoln, ever connecting the dots between arts and entertainment and social issues, examines Muppet Mania

I think it a fair assumption that most of you reading this are no longer avid or even intermittent viewers of that iconic children’s program Sesame Street. That being said, I’ll assume that the majority of you have, at least at once in your life, seen the program. Still, for the many more of us who needed perhaps a little more guidance in navigating the worlds of childhood and adolescence, Sesame Street became a television staple. And its legacy is indeed a substantial one -- first conceived in 1966, the series premiered on PBS on November 10, 1969.

Interestingly, for a program in its infancy, Sesame Street’s debut was very well-received -- high ratings and a preponderance of positive reviews. This is not to suggest that the program was not without controversy and some very vocal detractors. Consider, for example, the fact that a Mississippi State Commission voted to ban Sesame Street because of what was then deemed a “highly integrated cast of children.” This was, apparently, something for which the people of Mississippi were simply not ready.

Yet, as we know, Sesame Street endures, and it does so because from the beginning the program’s writers and producers have not only been adeptly formulaic -- using educational goals and a curriculum to shape the show’s content; but also by maintaining a flexibility (or adaptability) to an ever-changing social, cultural and political landscape. While it may seem rather trite at this point, it was during the mid-1970s that the program expanded its cast and crew to more fully embrace the contributions of women as well as   those who were then referred to as “visible minorities.”

Let me expand briefly on what I mean by the show being adeptly formulaic. The show’s writers and producers have never been reticent in pointing out that they ascribe to two fundamental goals in their programming: the goals of cognitive and affective development. Very briefly, cognitive goals serve to increase self-esteem and the individual’s feelings of competency. By contrast, but not at odds, affective goals serve to promote social competence, tolerance of diversity, and the teaching of non-aggressive ways of resolving conflict.

And let us take note that these are not merely abstractions to which producers, writers and viewers alike are expected to aspire. These are ideals that are played out among the “residents” of our beloved Sesame Street -- those whom we have seen deal in very real terms with such sensitive topics as self-acceptance, race, pregnancy, death, HIV-infection, the terrorist attacks of September 11, and Hurricane Katrina.

Yet given this remarkable track record of helping, if not guiding, so many young people through some of the more trying developments in our individual and collective histories -- in both personal and political terms -- we find ourselves once again at a moral impasse over the purely hypothetical marriage (or civil union) of two of Sesame Street’s most beloved characters -- Bert and Ernie. More specifically, Illinois resident Lair Scott was prompted by the recent New York State ruling allowing same-sex marriages and thus took it upon himself to start a petition encouraging the long-time “roommates” to wed. Some readers might find it interesting that the Archie comic series introduced its first gay character some time ago -- of course, the Archie audience is arguably a little longer in the tooth.

But while I can on some level understand the uproar over Scott’s petition to join Bert and Ernie in holy matrimony -- on several others, I simply cannot wrap my mind around the controversy. Let’s begin with the obvious and yes, I am absolutely willing to venture that in households throughout North America, innuendo about the “Bernie” relationship abounds. Here’s hoping some of you picked up on my combination technique here, much in the tradition of such gems as “Brangelina.” So let’s return to the obvious, Bert and Ernie are, without a doubt two of the GAYEST characters the show has ever featured.

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In fact, the two have been parodied on other programs more times than I can remember -- and if memory serves, Bert was invariably (for want of a better term) the “top” in most of these parodies. Given these less than flattering portrayals of two male Muppets in such a long-term relationship, it would seem to be that critics would be rejoicing at the possibility of a formal union within which Bert and Ernie might finally garner at least some respectability.

But let me close by returning to the detractors. For all the assumptions out there that Bert and Ernie are the dysfunctional gay civil union gone terribly awry, there are those adults (and most likely parents) who fear the transition to a civilly-sanctioned marriage. And their logic is this: such a marriage could (indeed would) jar and confuse children who may never have caught onto the rumours with which so many of the rest of us are familiar.

And to extend the argument, would this not suggest to young and impressionable children that men who long cohabitate should indeed marry? As such, Sesame Street is an inappropriate forum in which to explore such issues as romance, cohabitation and marriage -- and, so critics claim, it never has been. Forgive me here, but it seems to me that the romantic and sexual escapades of Kermit the Frog and Miss Piggy have been very seriously glossed over in this respect.

I’ll conclude on a rather academic note here. It should come as no surprise that what is more commonly known as “social learning” theory would have us believe that impressionable young children can and do indeed succumb to the images, examples, and lessons presented before them. Sociologists have long referred to this as “differential association” theory. Interestingly, sociologists have also explained to us that impressionable young children (among others) may identify with and indeed admire entirely fictional characters as well -- in other words the role model, the “deviant” and even the “criminal” may well be effective in transferring the skills, the life experiences and the knowledge that we may carry into adulthood. By contrast, this is referred to as “differential identification” theory.

This being said, I would like to leave the reader with three basic questions. If we are to take the opponents of the upcoming “MUPTIALS” at face value, we must, at the very least, consider the following. First, if there is indeed a “natural” order to this complicated matrix of human relationships that necessarily pairs males and females, is it fair to suggest that a pair of often contentious puppets is genuinely sufficient to upset this balance? Second, if Bert and Ernie do indeed become betrothed to each other, would this not be an exemplary demonstration of tolerance, self-acceptance and love of others? And finally, when and if they marry might this be just the example that so many of our young people need such that their adolescence might be just a bit less hellish??

How many of us could argue with the fact that it was children’s programs such as Sesame Street that helped so many address the anxieties associated with entering adulthood? Consider how many of us lamented as children, but were assured by parents, as well as by such programs that we were indeed “special” and that “we could do anything”. Unfortunately, as adults, all too many have discovered to their surprise and dismay that in the real world their options are far more limited, and that to be “special” may not be such a great reward. I would hope that Sesame Street, among other comparable venues, might chip away at such disappointments -- albeit slowly.

Aug08

My pets fly………….

Monday, 08 August 2011 Written by // Wayne Bristow - Positive Life Categories // Wayne Bristow

Wayne Bristow with an addition to our three-part “pets are good for you” feature

My pets fly………….

Dogs are by far the best pets, hands down. They truly are man’s best friend and the most reliable being you will ever have the pleasure of having in your life. It can be true in many situations, “the more you know about some people, the more sense a good dog makes.” I used to have a dog a long time ago but I don’t find I have time for one now, so I enjoy time with other friends’ dogs. My current pets, I guess you could call them that to an extent, are a part of nature.

When I was younger I wanted to take a trip to England. I was young, a bit adventurous but I never did it. Now I am older, I have the time to do it but financially I'm not able to. One of the main reasons I haven't done it is because over the years I have developed this "not wanting to fly" frame of mind. I know, I know, thousands of planes take off and land everyday but I just have this feeling I will be on that one that doesn't. I often say “if I was meant to fly they would have given me wings”.

It is funny that I say that because since I have picked up this photography hobby, many of the things I like to take pictures of have wings. I try to capture birds mostly but recently I have been able to shoot different types of dragonflies, bees and other smaller insects with wings. I look mostly for colour and hopefully try to capture them in flight. To see the wings spread out can be an amazing display. I find feathers fascinating by themselves but when they blend into the dress on a bird it is a beautifully tailored masterpiece. My favourite bird is the Cardinal and where I live, they are everywhere.

All these years I never noticed the birds, never stopped to listen to them singing; most of them I had no idea what they were. Now I can identify what they are and I know many of the songs of each bird. I can go out on the deck, listen for a few minutes and tell you which birds are in the neighbourhood.I had a chance to talk to this woman during my trip to Toronto Pride, we talked about birds and we both noticed there are so many around, so many types of birds that you don't normally see. We both kind of agreed it had to be due to the limitations they have on pesticide use in Canada.

I finally put up a bird feeder in the back yard, I can sit out on the deck and try to photograph them as they come to visit and have something to eat. Sometimes though, those damned pesky squirrels find their way up on the feeder and steal all the food. I have had to move the feeder, I tried to put barriers around so they can't get at it but they continued to get up there. Finally I have done the one thing I should have done all along, I bought a feeder that if they climb on it, their weight will cause the feeder to close off all the ports, so they aren't able to feed. Hopefully I have solved the problem. The smaller birds do throw the sunflower seeds to the ground so the squirrels can come and find them and then kindly leave.

So as far as pets go, I guess this is as close as I come to having one. Nature takes care of them most of the time but now I can help with some food if they stop by, and I get to sneak a picture or two, or three........ Now if there were real flying horses!

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Jul19

Wayne’s Summer Photo Album

Tuesday, 19 July 2011 Written by // Wayne Bristow - Positive Life Categories // Wayne Bristow

Wayne Bristow says photography is good for him. We think so too; here’s the proof.

Wayne’s Summer Photo Album

Summer’s sizzlin' and so are my pics. Spending some time with my hobby and I'm so happy with the results it has had on my health and on my creativity.

The last few days have been so bloody hot, I think they have fried my brain. I have a serious case of writer's block right now. I'm trying to wing it here hoping to make something happen.

There were times when I could get really stressed out, like if this was a school assignment that I had to produce an essay for or something. I do tend to work better under pressure, but PositiveLite will never pressure me to do a story under any terms. They are good about that. Thanks guys!

When I do get stressed, instead of stewing in my frustration, I just grab my camera and head out and try to create something with it. I find it very relaxing - many hours alone with nothing and no one to think of. I am not always alone; often someone will want to come along and it can be fun. Sometimes these are my best times to stir my creative juices, I do some of my best thinking on times like these, but it hasn't really happened in this heat. I'm thinking my creative juices have turned to Jello. Boing, boing!

With the hundreds of pictures I've taken in the last week or so, I'm posting a sample of the better ones here. I am not a professional; I just do this as a hobby. I thank technology for the invention of digital cameras, I am having a great time and saving so much money. I used to use a film camera and tried to do this kind of stuff years ago, only to waste my money on pictures that were just plain terrible.

Stress for me and my HIV isn't a good mix, so having this hobby helps me balance it all out. My counts are up, my health is good, my spirit is sailing and if I can't create something with words, then I can with my eye - oh and a camera. So enjoy these few pics and if you want to see more, I am on flickr.com here. It’s always changing so bookmark it and comeback if you have time.

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Jul04

Porn and the condom conundrum

Monday, 04 July 2011

Viral Load Warrior on Porn, Condom Use, Barebacking and HIV

This week, POZ magazine ran an interview with Derrick Burts (below,right and in the two video interviews below), the adult film performer at the centre of the most recent HIV ‘scare’ within the porn industry. Derrick – who performed in both gay and straight porn movies – tested positive for HIV four months after he made his porn debut.  

Over the past few months, Derrick has become vocal in advocating compulsory condom use within the adult entertainment industry. He has also been highly critical of the recently closed clinic for adult performers in Los Angeles, the Adult Industry Medical Healthcare Foundation (AIM).

I can understand why he’d be upset with AIM, since it looks like they treated him horribly. For example, they told him to take a holiday after his diagnosis rather than organising a doctor’s appointment.   I also admire the fact that he is being so open about his status, and is – like a lot of us after diagnosis – keen to promote HIV prevention efforts.  

Everyone is different depending on the circumstances around their HIV infection, but I remember saying to a friend of mine, ‘There is nothing quite like being diagnosed HIV positive to make you realise the importance of using condoms’. Did I enjoy the sex? Yes. Did I think I was invincible? Yes. If I could go back and use a condom would I do it? Yes.

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Whilst I sympathise with Derrick’s story and agree that in an ideal world, everyone should protect themselves from infection, I do not think this is a realistic goal considering the current demand for bareback porn.

Bareback porn allows – whether rightly or wrongly – the viewer to experience or fantasize about sex without condoms which is of course the way that sex was originally intended to be experienced. I’m guessing that the porn studios know this, hence why many of them are pandering to the demand.

I think we need to keep in mind that adult performers are consenting adults. Those who have unprotected sex on screen are not being forced at gunpoint. Yes, they are getting paid. For some, the allure of money will be enough to drop all inhibitions and take the risk. For me and others, drugs and alcohol played a role. Could it be argued that money may have similar intoxicating effects for some?

I guess what I’m saying is that each person is responsible for their own health whether in porn or not. It’s all sex.

The AIDS Healthcare Foundation recently appealed to overturn a ruling that the courts cannot ‘compel’ public health officials to enforce condom use on sets. Their appeal was dismissed.

So, shouldn’t we be looking at more creative ways to deal with the problem? Harm reduction – for example – has been a theme on PositiveLite lately. If the porn industry insists on bareback porn, and if the performers are seemingly happy to engage in it, then shouldn’t they be providing all performers with post-exposure prophylaxis after film shoots? Or even pre-exposure prophylaxis?    

Is it time we stop waving the condoms so much at the bareback porn stars and start waving them in the direction of PEP and PrEP? Maybe this would be a better way to prevent infection in this specific group.

Jun29

I hate Kraft dinner. Macaroni, cheese and me – we’re enemies.

Wednesday, 29 June 2011 Categories // Guest Authors

How Guest Writer Tim Walker went from Kraft dinners to quizzing HIVers about what they eat, and how you can get involved too.

I hate Kraft dinner. Macaroni, cheese and me – we’re enemies.

Coming from a poor family, macaroni and cheese was something I’ve been forced to eat for as long as I can remember. It’s all, a lot of the time, we could afford. These days, I won’t touch the stuff.

I wasn’t born into an easy life. Our family was poor, I know Children’s Aid too well and ran to the streets at 15. During that time, I smoked crack to deal with a plethora of emotional issues, worked in the sex industry to make ends meet and stole bread from hotels when I was hungry.

At 18, I was diagnosed with HIV. I was told I had four to five years to live.

That was 20 years ago.

At the age of 24, I was faced with 14 years in prison. However, I was offered an opportunity to go to a drug rehabilitation center instead and after completing my therapy, and being given a suspended sentence by the court, I was given a position within the rehabilitation center and eventually became a counselor.

I realized I was the only one responsible for my safety and well-being. I’ve been able to maintain sobriety and learned to practice self-care.

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At 27, I returned to Ontario to help my mother with her trucking company. I was parts manager and a trailer mechanic for the company. Unfortunately, she passed two years later. With a Grade 9 education, I opened my own trucking agency at the age of 29.

Shortly thereafter, I became sick. I went to welfare and then eventually Ontario Disability Support Program and have been on it ever since.

Recently, I completed an eight-week workshop at an AIDS Service Organization. During that time, I came across the Food Security Study, a national study that looks at the relationship between access to food and HIV.

I decided to get involved and became a Peer Research Assistant, someone who interviews and recruits other people living with HIV to share their experiences with HIV and access to food.

People with HIV are asked to complete one questionnaire and a 24-hour dietary recall. The nice thing is you’re paid $40 to participate in this study.

The Food Security Study is seeking 1,200 people living with HIV from Ontario, Quebec and British Columbia to participate in the study. The study is collaborating with more than 30 community based organizations. This is the first time that information from three major regions in Canada is being brought together to address the health needs of people living with HIV/AIDS.

We are dedicated to ensuring your privacy is carefully guarded. Information collected in this study is for research purposes only and will not affect the services you might receive from AIDS Service Organizations or the medical care you receive.

I know for me, being involved in community research is an investment in my own future and an investment for anyone else who is in need. Hopefully, this study will identify the risk factors and help lay the foundation for programs and policies that help people with HIV, and at risk of HIV, access healthy food.

With access to good food maybe, just maybe, we can avoid creating another Kraft dinner hater.

To participate in the Food Security Study, call 1-855-246-3388 or 416-969-4890.

More information about the study can be found here.

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This post first appeared on the blog of the AIDS Committee of Guelph and Wellington County whose website is here.

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