Lifestyle

Indulging your inner bacon habit

published: May, 11, 2016 Written by // Wayne Bristow - Positive Life Categories // Food, Nutrition and Recipes, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Wayne Bristow

Our Wayne Bristow is well known for being a bit of a bacon freak. Here he shares a recipe for Bacon Wrapped Shrimp

Indulging your inner bacon habit

It’s only one of my vices, but if I were to ask my followers on Facebook to name one thing they know about me, I believe the most common response would be that I like bacon. And I know my bacon. It doesn’t come from a turkey, not all bacon bits are real bacon bits and what the hell is Bacon Vodka? Almost daily one of those followers will post a recipe, something funny or a true fact on the benefits of eating bacon. Two years ago I received $25 worth of bacon for a Christmas gift - best C

On being poz and giving up smoking

published: May, 03, 2016 Written by // Guest Authors - Revolving Door Categories // Health, Smoking Cessation , Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Revolving Door, Guest Authors

Guest writer Rob Newman with “Looking back … looking ahead” in which he says I am proud of my accomplishment and all too aware of the proverbial slippery slope that can so often face someone struggling in addiction “

On being poz and giving up smoking

“All forms of addiction come with varying levels of stigma. What was happening to me, to my body, to my very life was addiction pure and simple.”  Before I started blogging I used to write for an online HIV magazine PositiveLite.com. I highly recommend this site; it is always current and informative. I wrote for PositiveLite.com for over two years and as I look back on the various articles and topics I wrote of there is this glaring truth that I wrote a lot on the subject of my many atte

Living with HIV in New York - and the people you meet

published: May, 02, 2016 Written by // Félix Garmendía Categories // Gay Men, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Population Specific , Félix Garmendía

Our prolific writer Felix Garmendia introduces some of the characters that intersect with his daily like – and what they mean to him

Living with HIV in New York - and the people you meet

Introduction On our way home from the doctor, four years ago, when the issue of marriage equality in New York was still controversial, another New Yorker taught me a lesson. This pocket of Manhattan is a village of diversity. The area is known as Washington Heights and has been the home of a vibrant Jewish community since the 1930s. The area is also the home of more Dominicans than Santo Domingo in the Dominican Republic. It was a typical crisp autumn day, getting chillier as the sun was get

Pets and living with HIV: Rodney and me

published: April, 28, 2016 Written by // Rob Olver - Editor Categories // Pets, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Rob Olver - Editor

Peterborough, Ontario’s Robert Olver tells us why animals are good for you and says “If I could make any recommendation at all to someone diagnosed with HIV or to anyone else for that matter, it would be this: love someone.” Or something.

Pets and living with HIV: Rodney and me

"But I am saying that if they offer you the chance, then love them for what they are and care for them for all you’re worth." In the spirit of full disclosure I should let you know that living with HIV is only one piece of my particular puzzle. You see, I also live with depression, C. O. P. D., a vascular disruption to my legs and the onset of old age. Luckily for me, I also live with the two handsome devils pictured.  I’d like you to meet Little One (l) and Rodney (r). Little One was n

Giving up a career in HIV work – but what instead?

published: April, 28, 2016 Categories // Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces

Don Short with “From nowhere to now here” says “I have come home to myself and I’m experiencing clarity in my decisions and goals. “

Giving up a career in HIV work – but what instead?

You can feel it in the air…cold temperatures giving way to sunny, spring days.  Smiles return to people you pass on the street, barbecues are brought out from their storage, and you can hear the sounds of kids playing again outside.  I welcome all of it.  Last year, I didn’t welcome spring. Weather was irrelevant and had no influence on my slump. I was experiencing an inner wasteland that was tricky to navigate. The desire for a breakthrough was alive and well, but imagining that kind

A writer returns – with a hi after a hiatus

published: April, 25, 2016 Written by // Christian Dolan Categories // Gay Men, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Population Specific , Christian Dolan

The UK’s Christian Dolan survives a serodiscordant relationship breakup, a broken ankle and a very public naked photo shoot to return to writing for PositiveLite.com

A writer returns – with a hi after a hiatus

It has been a while since I wrote my last article. For those who like precision, it has been exactly 593 days since I last put ‘finger to keyboard’ and thrashed out my thoughts and feelings.  Where was I at this time?  After what felt like the longest 6-8 weeks of my life, I was at the end stages of wearing my protective boot after breaking my ankle at a musical festival being an idiot roller skating to 70’s disco music. This confined me to being indoors a lot for the duration of tha

Nine ways to survive an open relationship

published: April, 21, 2016 Written by // Guest Authors - Revolving Door Categories // Dating, Gay Men, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Population Specific , Revolving Door, Guest Authors

The UK’s FS Magazine decided to knock up a guide to help you negotiate your relationship, whether it’s already open or you’re thinking about opening it up.

Nine ways to survive an open relationship

This article by Ian Howley @ianhowley first appeared in the UK’s FS Magazine, a publication of GMFA here.  “Open relationships are not real relationships”. “Gay men are greedy”. “You can’t truly love someone if you can have sex with other men”. You name it, we’ve heard it.  Everyone seems to have an opinion about open relationships, but not many will tell you how to make them work for you. Every relationship, whether you’re open or closed, needs some groundwork. Here at

Combining life with a disability with LGBT pride

published: April, 21, 2016 Written by // Félix Garmendía Categories // Activism, Gay Men, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Population Specific , Félix Garmendía

Out NYC poz guy Felix Garmendia says “For the longest time, I wanted an LGBT symbol to decorate my wheelchair”. So he did it –and immediately got noticed.

Combining life with a disability with LGBT pride

For the longest time, I wanted an LGBT symbol to decorate my wheelchair. I thought about a pink triangle, in the tradition of paying homage to all those LGBT concentration camp victims of WW2. For those of you who are not familiar with the pink triangle history, it was the Nazi's way of “tagging” LGBT people. LGBT prisoners in concentration camps were identified by a pink triangle sewn onto their prison uniforms.  Another very well known symbol of gay pride is our rainbow flag. “The r

My first serodiscordant relationship

published: April, 13, 2016 Written by // Guest Authors - Revolving Door Categories // Dating, Gay Men, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Population Specific , Sex and Sexuality , Revolving Door, Guest Authors

Brian Ledford aka “A Marine with HIV“ falls in love with an HIV-negative guy – and it’s working. Says Brian “We all deserve to be happy in our lives and nothing including HIV should stop us from finding it.”

My first serodiscordant relationship

Not too long ago I started talking to this really awesome guy on the social media app. Moovz.  If you do not know about this app, it is for the LGBTQ community.  I was nervous as hell when he was actually interested in me.  We talked back and forth for a while and I finally decided before we even went on our first date to ask him if he knew about my status.  Now usually in the past when a guy has found out about my HIV status, they typically run in the other direction and I never hear from

I did it on my own

published: April, 12, 2016 Written by // Félix Garmendía Categories // Gay Men, Spirituality, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Population Specific , Félix Garmendía

New Yorker Felix Garmendia has rejected organized religion in favour of his own code of ethics and says this has given him “the liberty to experience things I would have never experienced if I remained chained to their strict ethical codes"

I did it on my own

I don’t have any use for any influence in my life that will dictate what’s “right” or “wrong”; I have been in that place many times.  Organized religion has been one example where that simplistic dichotomy of life has been presented to me on a silver platter. I refuse to partake in that ritual of archaic or synthetic codes of ethics that point out and expect me to blindly follow flawed judgments of what they perceive as “good” or “bad” in life.  I was always a free thi

A humbling moment.

published: March, 25, 2016 Written by // Wayne Bristow - Positive Life Categories // Arts and Entertainment, Gay Men, Photography, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Population Specific , Wayne Bristow

Wayne Bristow enters a photography competition and says “this whole experience affirmed my belief that no matter what I have been through or going through now, there will always be someone less fortunate".

A humbling moment.

I have a wonderful group of peers who really know me – from the things I like (bacon) to my hobby (photography). Last December one peer was sitting on a committee with another organization that had organized an art show/contest called ‘Hope and Help: Overcoming Trauma’ and he suggested that I enter. I asked him to email me the entry information and I would take a look at it.  I downloaded the flyer, familiarized myself with the requirements and decided I would enter the contest. I coul

Next stop: unknown

published: March, 22, 2016 Categories // Gay Men, Newly Diagnosed, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Population Specific

Our Toronto guy Josh is changing jobs and his concerns about HIV drug coverage and security and he’s anxious and angry that his HIV status is intruding again

Next stop: unknown

This post is coming at a point where I’m feeling a lot of anxiety, so it might not be concise or even sensible. I needed to get my thoughts off my chest and out somewhere to try and calm down.  I’ve been considering changing jobs for some time now. I value the place I work; it does good things for vulnerable people, and the team that I am on is incredibly supportive and smart. I also have a manager who I value and respect. She’s the only one at work who knows about my status, and she

Smoking's pernicious impact worse with HIV Infection

published: March, 18, 2016 Written by // Guest Authors - Revolving Door Categories // Aging, Research, Health, International , Smoking Cessation , Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Revolving Door, Guest Authors

The Body Pro reports smoking leads all preventable causes of death across the world.And it's more deadly in people with HIV than in HIV-negative people

Smoking's pernicious impact worse with HIV Infection

This article by Mark Mascolini from The Center for AIDS Information & Advocacy also appeared in The Body Pro here.   Summary: Smoking exacts a huge toll on the health of everyone who becomes addicted to nicotine. That toll is greater in people with HIV, and not only because as a group they smoke more than the general population. Research shows that smoking subtracts more years from the life of a middle-aged person with HIV than HIV itself. Nicotine addiction raises the risk of allcause

I Discovered My Brother Was Gay from The Advocate Magazine

published: March, 17, 2016 Written by // Mark S. King - My Fabulous Disease Categories // Gay Men, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Population Specific , Mark S. King

Mark S King says he and his brother weren’t close. He was fifteen years older. Many years later we would both find ourselves living in Los Angeles and that gave them the chance, finally, to carve out a loving friendship as adults

I Discovered My Brother Was Gay from The Advocate Magazine

It was 1975 and I was 14 years old, all gangly limbs and stubborn acne, and I was sitting in the passenger seat of a parked car.  Splayed across my lap was the magazine, open to the page my companion had selected. I was staring at the photo with something like revelation.  “I wasn’t sure if I should show this to you,” he said. He was a little nervous. “But I think it’s wonderful.”  He had the exquisite name of Pericles Alexander, and was once the arts critic for The Shreveport

Mea Culpa: the role of guilt in being poz

published: March, 14, 2016 Written by // Félix Garmendía Categories // African, Caribbean and Black, Health, Sexual Health, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Population Specific , Sex and Sexuality , Félix Garmendía

Felix Garmendia doesn't sweat it but says "It was probably guilt that drove me to an early promiscuous period in my life that opened the doors to my HIV infection"

Mea Culpa: the role of guilt in being poz

It is always interesting to me to listen to a person's version of the alleged events around how they contracted HIV. I have discussed this issue in my life more than a few times - with friends, therapists, doctors, potential sex partners, even post sexual liaison conversations. Personally, I have always thought that, for most sexually active people, it is frustrating and futile to obsess over the specifics of “who, what, where, why”. Also, over the years, I have he

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