Lifestyle

Embracing a positive life

published: January, 24, 2017 Written by // Billy Santo Categories // Dating, Gay Men, Youth, Newly Diagnosed, Billy Santo, International , Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Population Specific

New blogger Billy Santo from the Philippines, living with HIV since May 2015, tells his story of hard times, redemption and making a difference

Embracing a positive life

I have had a difficult life. My mom committed suicide when I was three years old and my dad had a heart attack when I was nine. I am a product of child abuse, being passed from one relative to another. I was lost on track when I reached college where I decided to run away from my uncle who had treated me like an animal and went on searching for a place where I could survive. I begged from strangers, asked them to keep me in their homes in exchange for labor. I met up with many gay men for mo

Jeff Potts is home and doing well – but still facing major challenges

published: December, 22, 2016 Written by // Jeff Potts Categories // Health, Lifestyle, Jeff Potts, Living with HIV

Our popular Ottawa-based contributor Jeff Potts who suffered a stroke a few months ago provides a pre-Christmas update on how he is doing

Jeff Potts is home and doing well – but still facing major challenges

I am so incredibly glad to be home from hospital, but can't deny that being at home has meant making some significant adjustments.  I am improving every single day, but still have a long recovery road ahead I think. I am eating regular foods, but have some lingering affect in my throat and neck muscles, so my diet remains restricted (no mixed textures; no clear fluids while eating... so no chicken soup, lol).  I am walking, but very slowly and not without a mobility device (walker or cane).

Festive dessert time: How to make a really good trifle

published: December, 22, 2016 Written by // Bob Leahy - Publisher Categories // Food, Nutrition and Recipes, Lifestyle, Bob Leahy - Publisher

Bob Leahy shares his mother’s recipe for a dessert that will wow guests, visually and otherwise, the old fashioned way

Festive dessert time: How to make a really good trifle

Bob’s homemade trifle  Trifle; definition: 1. a thing of little value or importance 2. British: a cold dessert of sponge cake and fruit covered with layers of custard, jelly, and cream. If ever there were two definitions of the same word that are contrary to each other, trifle is that word. Dessert is seldom unimportant and when trifle is on the menu, it most definitely isn’t. I don’t think there can be many desserts so simple to create – anyone can do this - with such a high w

(Un)Happy Holidays

published: December, 19, 2016 Written by // Michael Yoder Categories // Social Media, Gay Men, Mental Health, Health, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Michael Yoder

Michael Yoder on HIV and the holidays: "... the real purpose of Winter festivities is not to be happy, but to find belonging..."

(Un)Happy Holidays

"Holidays in general breed unrealistic expectations. The minute you start wondering, 'is it going to be wonderful enough?,' it never will be." --Pepper Schwartz "...If I could work my will," said Scrooge indignantly, "every idiot who goes about with 'Merry Christmas on his lips, should be boiled with his own pudding, and buried with a stake of holly through his heart..." --Charles Dickens, A Christmas Carol It's that time of year where we're all supposed to be full of joy and light and love

Going on vacation

published: November, 21, 2016 Written by // Bob Leahy - Publisher Categories // Gay Men, Travel, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Population Specific , Bob Leahy - Publisher

The simple act of saying that he’s going on vacation in the US raises multiple issues for Editor Bob Leahy, from guilt to politics to religion. (When did life get this complicated?) But he’s going anyway.

Going on vacation

Live oaks with Spanish moss, typical South Carolina scenery It’s odd but whenever I talk about my vacation plans I get pangs of guilt. It shouldn’t be this way, I know. Vacations, post-HIV infection and more importantly post-U.S. election, should be a break from everything that irks, not a source of irk. (Is that a word? Hang on. It’s a verb not a noun. Close enough!)  The vacation itself isn’t terribly grand or expensive. Twelve days. A two-day drive down to Hilton Head, South Caro

Addicted at work - an insider speaks

published: November, 14, 2016 Written by // Bob Leahy - Publisher Categories // Gay Men, Mental Health, Features and Interviews, Health, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Population Specific , Bob Leahy - Publisher

Bob Leahy talks in-depth to Eric Cashmore, a person living with HIV who works at a northern Ontario AIDS Service Organization about Eric’s ongoing struggle with his addictions, and about the help he receives from the workplace to deal with them

Addicted at work - an insider speaks

Bob Leahy: Thanks for talking to PositiveLite.com first of all. I really appreciate it. Now tell me why you wanted to talk to me, Eric. Eric Cashmore: This is something I had to consider very carefully Bob. Just a couple of weeks ago I had a talk with my employer where I was being very public within my office, and I realized I had started to cause distress amongst people around me talking so openly about my addiction issues and how I’m handling them and people became very worried with me. S

Thought for the day. Do HIV and aging lead to extreme crankiness?

published: November, 02, 2016 Written by // Bob Leahy - Publisher Categories // Aging, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Bob Leahy - Publisher

Thought for the day. Do HIV and aging lead to extreme crankiness? That’s one theory of our editor Bob Leahy, trying to figure out why he’s gradually becoming the proverbial cranky old man, with HIV along for the ride.

Thought for the day. Do HIV and aging lead to extreme crankiness?

Am I turning into a curmudgeon? (Dictionary definition for all those out there who don’t read: “a person, especially an old man, who is easily annoyed or angered and who often complains?)  They say our character is partly the product of our life experience, partly genetic, partly upbringing. But if you are approaching curmudgeonary (curmudgeonhood?) how much of it is shaped by HIV? Does the virus infiltrate not only our body but our minds, turning us sweet and patient things, there to gi

Check it out!!! 2016 fall styles!!!

published: October, 28, 2016 Written by // Philip Minaker - Style Categories // Social Media, Gay Men, Lifestyle, Opinion Pieces, Philip Minaker

PositiveLite.com's Philip Minaker with an overview of 2016 fall fashion trends.

Check it out!!! 2016 fall styles!!!

A new season has arrived and that means a new approach to dressing. For many, Fall denotes change and new beginnings. Commencing a new academic year during our youth is probably the reason why many of us have taken a particular shining to Fall. Despite the anxieties that we may have initially experienced, including what to wear, we began to embrace the possibilities of new opportunities enthusiastically as the years advanced. For many, translating fashion into personal style is a process, l

Knowing the value of self worth, part two: putting aside the fear

published: October, 14, 2016 Written by // Patrick Italo Ettenes Categories // African, Caribbean and Black, Social Media, Gay Men, Mental Health, International , Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Patrick Italo Ettenes

"I smile with pride for any other person I can see who looks happy and content to be braving the world as a single person," says Patrick Ettenes

Knowing the value of self worth, part two: putting aside the fear

We don't all appreciate our own unique qualities and I believe that a lot of us don't know our own self worth. That is one thing that was stripped from me over the last few years. I was reminded by my dear mummy of who I was and where I came from and the dignity that was bred into us and suddenly the "self worth" light flipped on. I shouldn't have allowed it to go out in the first place. Do you know why you cause a smile on that someone's face when you pass? Do you know why your best mate cal

The importance of self care

published: October, 06, 2016 Categories // Yoga, Social Media, Gay Men, Food, Nutrition and Recipes, General Health, Mental Health, Fitness and Exercise, Health, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Jason Cole, Opinion Pieces

"Now I know the true value of taking care of myself and what that means," says Maya Cole

The importance of self care

As a young child in elementary school, I was a crafty and resourceful young soul. I had to be. Protection was the name of the game and the players were the many bullies that would make school difficult, everyday. My resourcefulness paid off in the way of escapism from my bullies’ relentless attacks. I had mapped out the entire school yard. Everything was colour-coded, even the trees and neighboring houses. Strongly depicted were my ‘safe zones’. They were the places I would run to w

I’m sorry, this job may not be right for you!

published: October, 03, 2016 Written by // Wayne Bristow - Positive Life Categories // Aging, Social Media, Gay Men, Health, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Media, Opinion Pieces, Wayne Bristow

"It’s never too late to learn a new skill or dream a new dream." says Wayne Bristow

I’m sorry, this job may not be right for you!

I suppose I could be a poster boy for what I’m writing about today. I set out to write about people who are doing work they aren’t qualified for, are unprepared for, or who are working at a job they don’t even want to do. Instead it's become an ‘I’ story, about me. That was probably a wise decision, I’m not in a place to judge. Many years ago I was hired to work in a factory. I had just re-united with my family and it was a time when I really needed to work to support them. We mo

Blind Date at Buddies: it’s love at first sight

published: September, 30, 2016 Written by // Bob Leahy - Publisher Categories // Dating, Arts and Entertainment, Gay Men, Performances, Lifestyle, Theatre, Opinion Pieces, Population Specific , Sex and Sexuality , Bob Leahy - Publisher

Blind Date at Buddies: it’s love at first sight. Bob Leahy reviews Toronto’s Buddies in Bad Times Theatre’s latest exploration of queer romance, a very clever and funny improv that draws the audience in quite literally

Blind Date at Buddies: it’s love at first sight

Photo Image by Tanja-Tiziana Blind Date is the first Buddies' show to feature alternating male and female leads. The gay dating version opened last night and the audience couldn’t have been more engaged in a 90-minute show that just flies by. It’s clever, funny as hell and leaves you wondering at the skill of it all. This is a show that you will talk about for a long time. Here’s the premise. The show opens with a clown, Mathieu, played winningly in the gay version by the handsome Davi

“Looks like I’m gonna live, I'd better get a job”.

published: September, 19, 2016 Written by // Guest Authors - Revolving Door Categories // Social Media, Youth, Mental Health, Revolving Door, Guest Authors, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces

How Robert Newman found his dream job and empowered his youngest son in the process.

 “Looks like I’m gonna live, I'd better get a job”.

Ten years ago this month I made the decision to return to school … in fact return to work, to life, real life or some semblance thereof.  I had joked for some time with regard to my life with AIDS… “looks like I’m gonna live, I'd better get a job”. Although it was a running joke in my life it was also fast becoming a reality. I retired from normal life, if you will, in January 1991 immediately after the diagnosis of me and my family. The doctors pretty much told me to. “You need

Don't let HIV keep you from pursuing a career or your passion

published: September, 16, 2016 Written by // Guest Authors - Revolving Door Categories // Social Media, Aging, Mental Health, Revolving Door, Guest Authors, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces

From TheBody.com Matt Ebert reports on how many are finding their way out of the disability insurance doldrums

Don't let HIV keep you from pursuing a career or your passion

This article by Matt Ebert previously appeared at the Body.com and you can read the whole thing here. I have a friend who receives a hefty check every month for not going to work. Back in the 1990s when he found out he was HIV positive, he cashed in on an income insurance policy. Now, as long as he stays unemployed, he receives six figures every year. For many of us that would be a blessing, but I wonder -- can it also be a bit of a curse? I have seen him in good times and bad, and I have s

My guilty pleasures

published: September, 13, 2016 Written by // Christian Dolan Categories // Social Media, Gay Men, Food, Nutrition and Recipes, Mental Health, International , Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Christian Dolan

Let's dance - and eat,. "We are all just as guilty of knowing we shouldn’t do things… and doing them anyway. This is where moderation comes into play," says UK guy, Christian Dolan.

My guilty pleasures

All of us, whether or not we care to admit them, have guilty pleasures. According to a quick Google search, a guilty pleasure is described as “Something, such as a film, television program of piece of music, that one enjoys despite feeling that it is not held in high regard.” I would add that in some cases a guilty pleasure can be something which we may find embarrassing. Just as I have in many previous pieces, I am going to lay it all bare and really embarrass myself here, as some of my

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