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Who are heterosexual women acquiring HIV from? Are heterosexual women's partners a hidden population?

published: September, 21, 2017 Written by // Samantha Categories // Social Media, Dating, featured, Gay Men, Women, International , Legal, Living with HIV, Media, Opinion Pieces, Sex and Sexuality , Samantha

Samantha: We need to dare to address the unspoken dynamic of how women acquire HIV.

Who are heterosexual women acquiring HIV from? Are heterosexual women's partners a hidden population?

Women represent 50% of the population of people living with HIV globally, yet there has been little research or sharing of information about who heterosexual woman acquire the HIV virus from. There is focus on stressors attributing to women living with HIV, including intimate partner violence, gender inequality, unequal power dynamics within relationships, race, ethnicity, poverty, education and various social disparities. Yet, there is little information about men as active participants other

Swiss Grindr survey finds 50% want to use PrEP in the next six months

published: June, 14, 2017 Written by // Guest Authors - Revolving Door Categories // Social Media, Dating, African, Caribbean and Black, As Prevention , Gay Men, Current Affairs, General Health, Treatment Guidelines -including when to start, Health, International , Treatment, Lifestyle, Media, Revolving Door, Guest Authors

From AIDSmap, Gus Cairns reports on a survey showing twice as much interest in PrEP as in surveys done last year

Swiss Grindr survey finds 50% want to use PrEP in the next six months

A survey of Swiss gay men and men who have sex with men recruited through the Grindr networking app has found that while only 4.3% had taken HIV pre-exposure prophylaxis (PrEP), 50% would consider taking it within the next six months and 79% would either take it some time in the future or want to learn more about it. The survey was a brief one both in terms of its appearance online (from 5 to 24 January this year) and in terms of its length (only ten questions taking, it was estimated,

HIV stigma in sheep's clothing

published: June, 05, 2017 Written by // Guest Authors - Revolving Door Categories // Social Media, Dating, As Prevention , Gay Men, Treatment Guidelines -including when to start, General Health, Sexual Health, Health, Treatment, Living with HIV, Media, Opinion Pieces, Revolving Door, Guest Authors

Guest author Émolas shares his experience of how the contradictory messages that are given by healthcare and social service providers in the field of HIV preventioncan sometimes reinforce HIV stigma by creating anxiety in HIV-negative people.

HIV stigma in sheep's clothing

Most of the time, HIV stigma is pretty easy to spot. It comes across in black and white on dating app profiles when guys write things like “clean and DDF (drug and disease free).” It’s evident in the ever-growing number of people living with HIV who have been prosecuted for not disclosing their HIV status prior to specific sexual encounters, even though the risk of HIV transmission during those encounters was extremely low (if not nonexistent). But I want to talk about a different kind o

Run out of rhino

published: May, 19, 2017 Written by // Alex Sparrowhawk Categories // Dating, Social Media, Gay Men, International , Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Alex Sparrowhawk

UK guy Alex Sparrowhawk tries the Tinder app and gets very mixed results.

Run out of rhino

I’m not the most patient of people and I’m also competitive – I’ve mastered being able to ‘win’ at anything, especially when I’m the only person involved. So when it comes to dating despite knowing something will happen unexpectedly and when the time is right I’m easily frustrated.  So whilst hungover over the bank holiday weekend I decided to download Tinder. Having been in a relationship until last August I’m late to the party with this one so I doubt much of what I have

Are women prepared for HIV PrEP?

published: May, 05, 2017 Written by // Guest Authors - Revolving Door Categories // Social Media, Dating, As Prevention , African, Caribbean and Black, Treatment Guidelines -including when to start, General Health, Research, Women, International , Treatment, Lifestyle, Revolving Door, Guest Authors

From KALW.org, Chloe Lessard: "some women and trans folks are wondering why a drug that could potentially save their lives hasn’t been aggressively promoted in their communities."

Are women prepared for HIV PrEP?

To read the complete article by Chloe Lessard, visit KALW.org, here. Did you know that you can take a drug to reduce your risk of getting HIV? If you’re a gay man, you’ve probably heard of it. It’s a daily regimen called PrEP, or pre-exposure prophylaxis. Maybe you’ve even seen ads for it on BART trains or clinic brochures, usually targeting men who sleep with other men. But PrEP doesn’t only benefit men, and some women and trans folks are wondering why a drug that could potential

How HIV made me look at dating differently

published: May, 04, 2017 Written by // Guest Authors - Revolving Door Categories // Dating, Social Media, Gay Men, International , Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Revolving Door, Guest Authors

From FS Magazine, Ruaidhri O’Baoill on dealing with dating and stigma in the wake of his diagnosis.

How HIV made me look at dating differently

I recently met up with a friend of mine who laughed when I mentioned that I was writing my next article on relationships. I can’t blame him. I’m single. I’ve been consistently single for the past nine years. My relationship with relationships isn’t great. When I was younger I couldn’t wait until I was older so I could find ‘the one’. I was such a romantic. I would obsess over how we would meet. How he would propose. Where we would live and what our lives would be like. Even thou

HIV and dating: toe in the water

published: March, 13, 2017 Written by // Alex Sparrowhawk Categories // Dating, Social Media, Gay Men, International , Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Alex Sparrowhawk

Newly single after a long time in a relationship, the UK's Alex Sparrowhawk braves the currents of modern dating.

HIV and dating: toe in the water

Following my diagnosis it was a mere three months before I met my ex-partner. He was someone I spent another six and a half years with until we broke up at the end of last summer. I think I am in a little bit of an unusual situation; living with HIV for 87 months but during that period only being single for nine of them. I’ve been avoiding dating since the split, enjoying time by myself and busying myself with work, family and friends. Over the past few weeks I’ve been toying with the

No more sex shaming: why my 2017 will be sex-positive.

published: February, 21, 2017 Written by // Guest Authors - Revolving Door Categories // Social Media, Dating, Gay Men, Mental Health, Sexual Health, International , Lifestyle, Media, Opinion Pieces, Sex and Sexuality , Revolving Door, Guest Authors

From FS, Vish says, "Perhaps it’s time we banish the world ‘slut’ from our vocabulary or at least reclaim it to mean something more sex-positive."

No more sex shaming: why my 2017 will be sex-positive.

This article originally appeared in the UK’s FS magazine, a publication of GMFA, here. I want to be a ‘slut’. There, I said it. You might be thinking, “why would anyone want to be a slut?” After all, this word is deeply misogynistic, where  women are criticised for dressing a certain way and for having openly active sex lives. Heaven fucking forbid! This negativity also spills into the gay world to some extent, particularly when STIs are involved, and people get on their high hor

Sex after diagnosis: my journey to believing that undetectable HIV viral load means uninfectious

published: February, 20, 2017 Written by // Joshua Middleton Categories // Dating, Social Media, Activism, As Prevention , Treatment Guidelines -including when to start, Mental Health, Sexual Health, Health, International , Treatment, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Joshua Middleton

Joshua Middleton tells of how he addressed self-stigma and maintained a sexual identity post-diagnosis.

Sex after diagnosis: my journey to believing that undetectable HIV viral load means uninfectious

To read the entire  article by Joshua Middleton, visit TheBody.com, here. An image of the moment I was diagnosed HIV positive remains vivid in my mind. The feelings and emotions that ran through my body like a lightening bolt that day are not easily forgotten. They will be with me forever, as will my feeling of infectiousness upon hearing the words that have played in my mind like a broken record all these years: "Josh, I am sorry, but you are HIV positive." I remember telling myself that

I am HIV-positive. This is what it's like to date.

published: February, 09, 2017 Written by // Guest Authors - Revolving Door Categories // Dating, Social Media, Mental Health, Women, Sexual Health, International , Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Revolving Door, Guest Authors

Must-read from Redbook: Dating after a breakup is hard enough — now add being HIV positive to that.

I am HIV-positive. This is what it's like to date.

To read the complete article by Karen Fratti visit Redbook, here. I was living in New York City with a boyfriend I'll call Matt when I was diagnosed with HIV. I was 28 and he was just hitting 35. It was my first steady, long-term relationship, and we did what I used to think of as "grown-up" things. Like having Sunday football parties or fighting in Home Depot about what color to paint an accent wall in our living room. We made complex weekday dinners to distract ourselves from the fact th

Examining death, including the one I caused

published: February, 01, 2017 Written by // Mark S. King - My Fabulous Disease Categories // Social Media, Dating, Activism, Gay Men, Mental Health, International , Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Mark S. King

Mark S. King: "Did you ever end a relationship once you realized you were going to survive AIDS? I did, or at least thought so, until my actual motives were revealed in my ex-partner's book."

Examining death, including the one I caused

Chris Glaser, author of The Final Deadline: What Death Has Taught Me About Life (left) My memorial service will be fabulous, I can assure you of that. I first outlined it during the initial, deadly wave of AIDS in the 1980’s, and have edited it here and there over the years, updating the songs I would like played or the video footage shown. Focusing on the spectacle, though, may just be avoiding the facts: if it’s my memorial, that means I’m dead. And death is a subject about which I h

Embracing a positive life

published: January, 24, 2017 Written by // Billy Santo Categories // Dating, Gay Men, Youth, Billy Santo, Newly Diagnosed, International , Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Population Specific

New blogger Billy Santo from the Philippines, living with HIV since May 2015, tells his story of hard times, redemption and making a difference

Embracing a positive life

I have had a difficult life. My mom committed suicide when I was three years old and my dad had a heart attack when I was nine. I am a product of child abuse, being passed from one relative to another. I was lost on track when I reached college where I decided to run away from my uncle who had treated me like an animal and went on searching for a place where I could survive. I begged from strangers, asked them to keep me in their homes in exchange for labor. I met up with many gay men for mo

Blind Date at Buddies: it’s love at first sight

published: September, 30, 2016 Written by // Bob Leahy - Publisher Categories // Dating, Arts and Entertainment, Gay Men, Performances, Theatre, Lifestyle, Opinion Pieces, Population Specific , Sex and Sexuality , Bob Leahy - Publisher

Blind Date at Buddies: it’s love at first sight. Bob Leahy reviews Toronto’s Buddies in Bad Times Theatre’s latest exploration of queer romance, a very clever and funny improv that draws the audience in quite literally

Blind Date at Buddies: it’s love at first sight

Photo Image by Tanja-Tiziana Blind Date is the first Buddies' show to feature alternating male and female leads. The gay dating version opened last night and the audience couldn’t have been more engaged in a 90-minute show that just flies by. It’s clever, funny as hell and leaves you wondering at the skill of it all. This is a show that you will talk about for a long time. Here’s the premise. The show opens with a clown, Mathieu, played winningly in the gay version by the handsome Davi

Republishing "Fuck poz guys!" Has the message sunk in yet? We think not.

published: June, 16, 2016 Categories // Dating, Activism, Gay Men, Sexual Health, Health, Lifestyle, Opinion Pieces, Population Specific , Sex and Sexuality

Marc-André LeBlanc asks if you’re a neg guy is it safer to have sex with poz guys or neg guys? Limit your condomless sex to poz guys with undetectable viral loads and avoid condomless sex with casual negative partners he suggests.

Republishing

PositiveLite.com Editor's note: This article, now over three years old, has been read by more people in PositiveLite.com's six-year history than any other. When Marc-André LeBlanc wrote it, the view expressed - that undetectable poz guys were a much safer bet than neg guys realized - was groundbreaking. It's since become mainstream - and yet not. Anybody who is undetectable who has been rejected by a "neg" guy seeking a "safe" partner knows it. Many neg guys still think that going with anot

"But AIDS was an 80s illness, right?"

published: June, 16, 2016 Written by // Guest Authors - Revolving Door Categories // Dating, Activism, Gay Men, Youth, International , Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Revolving Door, Guest Authors

From FS Magazine, guest author Bradd Farnsworth says, "... it took just one person to laugh off safer sex, to make me realise that things really do need to change when it comes to students and sex."

This article by Bradd Farnsworth @BraddFarnsworth is from FS Magazine, a publication of the UK’s GMFA, here. Republished with permission.   “I don’t even know where the local sexual health clinic is to be fair...” is a phrase I had heard countless times during my university years, and it took just one person to laugh off safer sex, to make me realise that things really do need to change when it comes to students and sex. I was a typical student. I enjoyed the partying, the soci

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