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Stag me to hell: socialising with straight men

published: November, 15, 2017 Written by // Guest Authors - Revolving Door Categories // Social Media, Gay Men, Mental Health, Health, International , Revolving Door, Lifestyle, Guest Authors, Media, Opinion Pieces

From FS Magazine, Mark Reed on gay-straight socializing: "Maybe if we tried to integrate more, we could break down prejudices held on both sides."

Stag me to hell: socialising with straight men

I have straight male friends who I hang out with one on one, but I don’t have groups of straight male pals who I hang out with on a regular basis. I don’t consciously seek to avoid these kinds of social situations, it’s more because, by and large, I feel more comfortable in the company of gay men (more on that later). This was going to be an all-straight affair, and I didn’t know half of the group at all.I was recently invited on a stag do – a first for me. I signed up quite readily,

After I was diagnosed with HIV I started taking risks

published: October, 30, 2017 Written by // Guest Authors - Revolving Door Categories // Social Media, Dating, Gay Men, As Prevention , Treatment Guidelines -including when to start, Newly Diagnosed, Mental Health, Health, Revolving Door, Treatment, Lifestyle, Guest Authors, Living with HIV, Media, Sex and Sexuality

From FS Magazine, Ruaidhri O'Baoill tells of "a time when I should have protected myself more than ever but instead put myself through continuous sexual risk" and how he found his way forward.

After I was diagnosed with HIV I started taking risks

When I was diagnosed as HIV-positive I turned to sex as a way to cope with how I was feeling about myself. I lost all confidence and self-condemned myself to the ‘unwanted’ pile. I relied on the quick fix that sex brought to make myself feel better again.  It was the connection, contact and ultimately acceptance, along with being desired, that I craved which sex provided me with – no matter the circumstance.  I didn’t set out to intentionally put myself at risk again after being d

U.S. simulation explores the intersection of PrEP and some sexually transmitted infections

published: October, 10, 2017 Written by // CATIE - HIV and Hep C Info Resource Categories // Social Media, Gay Men, CATIE, As Prevention , General Health, Treatment Guidelines -including when to start, Research, Sexual Health, Health, CATIE - HIV and Hep C Info Resource, Treatment, Lifestyle, Media

"The results of the researchers’ simulations show that PrEP should be considered as a package of interventions, of which STI screening and treatment are an important part. From Catie, Sean R. Hosein reports.

U.S. simulation explores the intersection of PrEP and some sexually transmitted infections

The use of medicines to prevent a person from becoming infected with HIV is called pre-exposure prophylaxis (PrEP). PrEP consists of two anti-HIV drugs—tenofovir DF and FTC—in one pill. In clinical trials with gay, bisexual and other men who have sex with men (MSM), PrEP has been highly effective in preventing the spread of HIV. According to a team of U.S. researchers who analysed data from several clinical trials, the consistent use of PrEP can reduce the risk of HIV infection “by more

The lost art of communication

published: September, 29, 2017 Written by // Michael Yoder Categories // Aging, featured, Social Media, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Michael Yoder

Michael Yoder: "More and more I believe our social isolation (and not just for poz folk) is a symptom of disassociation and disconnection."

The lost art of communication

"The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place."  -- George Bernard Shaw When I was young, in my 20s, we had no internet or Skype. We had party lines and dial phones or those fancy new push button phones that were all the rage. We didn't have texting or sexting, or Scruff or Grindr, or phones that were used solely for the purpose of taking self-absorbed portraits of our dinners or our faces with duck lips. No, we had much more... We actually talked to

Going the distance

published: September, 25, 2017 Written by // Wayne Bristow - Positive Life Categories // Social Media, Aging, Dating, Gay Men, International , Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Population Specific , Wayne Bristow

Wayne Bristow on long distance romance: " I can choose to be alone or I can trust this, try to make it work and be happy. I'm already happier."

Going the distance

It may be long distance but I’ve met someone I feel so much closer to than some of the people around me. They say there is someone out there for everyone. And they say love will find you when you least expect it. The only problem with that rhetoric is, they say it like the person is right down the street from me or close by. At last count, and according to what I’ve found online, there are more than 7.5 billion humans on the planet, so where is mine and what in the hell am I doing wrong?

HIVMA Comprehensive Guidelines recommend screening everyone with HIV,  offering multidisciplinary treatment focusing on non-drug options

published: September, 20, 2017 Written by // Guest Authors - Revolving Door Categories // Social Media, Aging, Yoga, Health, Revolving Door, International , Guest Authors, Lifestyle, Media

Chronic pain common in people living with HIV. From The Infectious Diseases Society of America (IDSA), this report.

HIVMA Comprehensive Guidelines recommend screening everyone with HIV,  offering multidisciplinary treatment focusing on non-drug options

ARLINGTON, Va. – Because ongoing pain is a significant problem that affects 39 to 85 percent of people living with HIV, everyone with the infection should be assessed for chronic pain, recommend guidelines released by the HIV Medicine Association (HIVMA) of the Infectious Diseases Society of America (IDSA) and published in the journal Clinical Infectious Diseases. Those who screen positive should be offered a variety of options for managing pain, starting with non-drug treatment such as co

Fall trend report

published: September, 08, 2017 Written by // Philip Minaker - Style Categories // Social Media, Gay Men, Mental Health, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Philip Minaker

PositiveLite.com style advisor Philip Minaker: "The major trend of this season is indeed the seventies and all they had to offfer."

Fall trend report

Fashion designers draw inspiration for their collections from a variety of subject matter: - A trip abroad or for the love of their homeland. - A work of art, a movie or a story that moves them. - A vision of the future or of a bygone era. - Or perhaps…what’s currently going on in the world. Whether it’s a fantasy or interpretation of reality, making fashion relevant and appealing is a tough task. The challenge, season after season, is to make fashion reflect the times in which we l

What is “successful aging” for people living with HIV?

published: August, 30, 2017 Written by // Guest Authors - Revolving Door Categories // Social Media, Aging, As Prevention , Gay Men, General Health, Treatment Guidelines -including when to start, Mental Health, Health, International , Revolving Door, Treatment, Guest Authors, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Media

From AIDSmap, Roger Pebody reports on a qualitative study by Ontario researchers on HIV, aging and disability.

What is “successful aging” for people living with HIV?

When Canadian researchers asked HIV-positive people over the age of 50 how they would define “successful ageing”, six key themes emerged – accepting limitations, staying positive, maintaining social support, taking responsibility, living a healthy lifestyle, and engaging in meaningful activities. Writing in the International Journal of STD & AIDS, Patricia Solomon and colleagues note the emphasis on individual control. Clinicians and service providers should work with people livin

I got me... for now!

published: August, 23, 2017 Written by // Wayne Bristow - Positive Life Categories // Activism, Social Media, Aging, Gay Men, Mental Health, Photography, Health, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Wayne Bristow

Wayne Bristow: I have a list of things that I need to do and no determination to attempt any of them."

I got me... for now!

I’ve realized, I’m not burning out, I’m having days when I wake up and say, “I just don’t want to do anything today”. August 15th, 2017, I received an email from the editor of PositiveLite asking if I had something for publication, that it’s been a while since my last submission. I haven’t responded to the email yet, deciding I would write something to explain why instead. I sat here most of the day and tried to think of a place to start, and it honestly became a struggle. I

No exit?

published: August, 23, 2017 Written by // Bob Leahy - Publisher Categories // featured, Activism, Aging, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Bob Leahy - Publisher

Bob Leahy on HIV advocates who eschew retirement to keep on going . . and going . . and going.

No exit?

I want to talk about the life cycle of those who engage in HIV work, because it’s bothering me. It bothers me from a personal perspective because as an older adult I am nearing the end of that cycle. But it also bothers me that as community we seem kind of impervious to the consequences of not only aging but becoming aged. And as HIV advocates who stick up for minorities, accommodate those who need accommodation, we seem to have hit a blind spot.  To put this in a wider context, discussion

The terrifying crystal meth story I have never told

published: August, 21, 2017 Written by // Mark S. King - My Fabulous Disease Categories // Social Media, Gay Men, General Health, Health, International , Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Media, Mark S. King

Mark S. King shares "one terrifying night during my #Meth #Addiction that I must share to get well."

The terrifying crystal meth story I have never told

When my guard is down, it comes to me. It flashes across my mind, an uninvited assault, sometimes when I am beginning to drift off to sleep or, more cruelly, when my mind is enjoying a pleasant reverie. It is then that the dark memory rushes in like a raid. He lived in a house with nice furnishings. That reassured me when I arrived for the hookup, given that so many of the other crystal meth addicts I encountered were barely holding on to the remnants of their lives. The others might have a s

When you see them, run!!!

published: August, 18, 2017 Written by // Kimutai Kemboi, Categories // African, Caribbean and Black, Social Media, Kimutai Kemboi, General Health, Health, Sexual Health, International , Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Media, Opinion Pieces

From Kenya, Kimutai Kemboi writes about the "sponsor" phenomenon and how it feeds into the spread of HIV there..

When you see them, run!!!

'Daniel' as she used to call me, 'you are so young and unfit to be working at such a tender age. You seem to have a potential of doing something better and in this connection, what is that good thing that a person can do for that will change your life forever? ' I had one unchangeable dream and that was to go back to school. That is something I always wished for but no one asked. Her question drew a lot of thoughts in my mind but in the long run, I settled on one decision; that was to open u

Us and them

published: July, 21, 2017 Written by // Michael Yoder Categories // Aging, Social Media, Gay Men, Current Affairs, Mental Health, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Media, Michael Yoder

Michael Yoder: "Unfortunately, we're all too human and we're all too convinced that we are separate from each other and everything else in the Universe."

Us and them

"If you understand, things are just as they are... If you do not understand, things are just as they are..."  Anonymous Something's been bothering me for a while now and I wanted to write about it, but couldn't put my finger on it until just the other day. What's been bothering me is how factions are appearing everywhere - Black Lives Matter, U=U, Politics and Pride parades, anger at just about everything and separation from each other. My little "aha" moment was that all this is about dual

We must listen to science not stigma

published: July, 06, 2017 Written by // Guest Authors - Revolving Door Categories // Social Media, Gay Men, As Prevention , General Health, Treatment Guidelines -including when to start, Mental Health, Health, International , Revolving Door, Treatment, Guest Authors, Lifestyle, Media

Around 1 in 3 Brits would be ‘uncomfortable’ giving First Aid to someone with HIV on effective treatment, according to Terrence Higgins Trust survey, while nearly 40% would be ‘uncomfortable’ going on a date.

We must listen to science not stigma

Medical evidence has shown that people living with HIV and who are on effective treatment cannot pass on the virus. However, a major new survey by Terrence Higgins Trust has shown that only 9% of the British public are aware of this fact, which has been evidenced by scientific research. Meanwhile around one in three (32%) adults would feel uncomfortable giving first aid to someone living with HIV who is on effective treatment, according to the YouGov survey of 2,022 adults. And nearly 40% o

Life is a puzzle and death is its final piece.

published: June, 29, 2017 Written by // Félix Garmendía Categories // Aging, Social Media, Gay Men, Mental Health, International , Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Media, Opinion Pieces, Félix Garmendía

New York guy Félix Garmendía: "Every day we have left is one more day to dare ourselves to love and be loved."

Life is a puzzle and death is its final piece.

HIV has taught me several things. I actually believe that HIV changed my life forever with a mix of sad and beautiful memories of fighting for my life, after receiving a “death sentence” back in the late 1980s. I mean this literally, I was told over the phone that I had, at the most “6 months to a year to live”. Getting a death sentence is probably one of the most terrifying things I have ever confronted so far. The bleak circumstances surrounding my death sentence were very poignan

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