Spirituality

¡Feliz Navidad!

published: December, 07, 2017 Written by // Félix Garmendía Categories // Social Media, Aging, Gay Men, International , Spirituality, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Félix Garmendía

From New York, Félix Garmendía: "Every sundown is counted, every smile is felt deeply and appreciated, every new day is a gift full of life..."

¡Feliz Navidad!

As a secular humanist, I have no particular spiritual connection to Christmas, but I do enjoy very much the atmosphere that surrounds the whole phenomenon of Christmas every year (“don we now our GAY apparel….”). In my neighborhood, Washington Heights in upper Manhattan, the main commercial street gets decorated with beautiful lights everywhere. It’s a playground of traditional consumerism and yet also a festive and exciting time for many, many people -- even jaded New Yorkers. I re

Welcome back

published: November, 30, 2017 Written by // Daniel Uy Categories // Alternative Therapies, Social Media, Yoga, Gay Men, Health, Spirituality, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Daniel Uy

The PositiveLite.com team is happy to welcome Daniel Uy back as a regular contributor. Here, Daniel shares what he's been up to since 2015.

Welcome back

After two years, I have decided to come back to writing. So, the biggest question I have been asked by my editor is, “What have you been up to?” Wow. When I look over that, it is pretty amazing to share. At the time, I was finishing up a Certificate Program in Project Management at Ryerson University and in an open relationship with someone. Life was full and busy. In the spring of 2016, I was at a crossroad. I had broken up with someone, had also completed some goals of mine, and was sor

Ed Wolf's journal of the Trump years for November: expect the unexpected

published: November, 01, 2017 Written by // Ed Wolf Categories // Social Media, Aging, Activism, Gay Men, Current Affairs, Spirituality, Ed Wolf, International , Living with HIV, Media, Opinion Pieces

HIV activist Ed Wolf copes with Trumpism as the malaise continues.

Ed Wolf's journal of the Trump years for November: expect the unexpected

 Day 94.  Expect the Unexpected As some of you know, I had the great honor to be included in David Weissman’s award-winning documentary, “We Were Here,” and occasionally receive messages from people who’ve seen it. The following arrived a few days ago, a perfect reminder to all of us, in these polarized times, to continue to do our work, stay committed to our beliefs, and tell our stories. Hearts and minds can and do change. “Hi Ed. I just watched the movie in which you are feat

My new friend

published: October, 26, 2017 Written by // Dennis Battler Categories // Social Media, Aging, Gay Men, Mental Health, Health, Spirituality, Dennis Battler, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces

Dennis Battler honours Shanti's life and faces a new diagnosis.

My new friend

“And now its Wed. Tue was another day from the Hellien Gods. Centered around my new bodily curiousity the nature of which is too delicate for my demure conversational boundaries.” … as written to an older female friend earlier today. Thoughts change quickly. Well, fuck demure. As I wrote to another friend, David: "Re: sex - I doubt it will happen again in my lifetime. When I think of it, sex fucked up my life. As you said, “So much disease with sex.” And do we really pay attention?

Films open up the lives of Christians affected by HIV

published: October, 11, 2017 Written by // Guest Authors - Revolving Door Categories // Social Media, Mental Health, Revolving Door, Spirituality, International , Guest Authors, Living with HIV, Media

From Church Times, Hattie Williams reports on Positive Faith, a new online resource exploring the relationship between HIV and faith.

Films open up the lives of Christians affected by HIV

Talking about faith: a Christian with HIV, Horcelie Sinda Wa Mbongo (currently Miss Congo UK), and Vida Boateng, in one of the videos in the resource A NEW government-funded video series produced by Christians living with, or affected by, HIV has been praised by church leaders and health professionals. The online resource, Positive Faith, explores the relationship between HIV and faith. It is due to be launched in London next Thursday, 12 October, by the charity Catholics for A

An atheist wonders about praying

published: September, 28, 2017 Written by // Félix Garmendía Categories // Social Media, Aging, Gay Men, International , Spirituality, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Félix Garmendía

New York guy Félix Garmendía: "One of the things I have learned to understand is the ultimate rule of kindness."

An atheist wonders about praying

As an HIV-positive man who happens to be wheelchair bound, I have been told recently a lot by friends that they are praying for me. Those who are aware of the fact that I am a non believer, immediately follow their kind gesture with an apology like, “I know you are an atheist but...” Atheism is not a religion and I call myself a non believer of the prejudicial, judgmental, bigoted idea of “God”. I have encountered since I was a child, many situations and postures, many of them conf

Setting our minds to it! Attending the Realize 2017 Forum on HIV and Mental Health

published: September, 22, 2017 Written by // Rob Olver - Editor Categories // Activism, Aging, Social Media, Gay Men, General Health, Mental Health, Research, Health, Spirituality, Living with HIV, Media, Rob Olver - Editor

Rob Olver picks up a few shots of inspiration at Realize Forum 2017.

Setting our minds to it! Attending the Realize 2017 Forum on HIV and Mental Health

“Today, by examining from the personal perspective of PLWHIV we want to zero in on what has worked... in terms of accessing services; what needs to be improved, and by listening to people who developed and implemented programs that are innovative, what they think can be adapted elsewhere, plus find out how they did what they did and finally where can these services go next.” – Tammy C. Yates, Opening Remarks to Realize Forum 2017 Realize is the only national organization that has worked

Positive in the Philippines: an interview with Billy Santo.

published: April, 11, 2017 Written by // Billy Santo Categories // Activism, Social Media, Youth, Mental Health, Billy Santo, Spirituality, International , Living with HIV, Media, Opinion Pieces

Billy Santo, of the Philippines interviews himself for PositiveLite.com.

Positive in the Philippines: an interview with Billy Santo.

Preferred name for credits? Billy Santo Organizational Affiliation(s)? Bi Positive What would you do today if nothing scared you? I would educate people regarding the HIV/AIDS Epidemic and would never have to be afraid of disclosing my status. I'd like to make them aware that people like me exist and should be treated normally, without the prejudice and discrimination that comes from every family, the community, the church, the workplace. What is something that you expected to happen but

Ed Wolf's journal of the Trump years for April: circles within circles.

published: April, 06, 2017 Written by // Ed Wolf Categories // Activism, Social Media, Gay Men, General Health, Mental Health, Health, Spirituality, Ed Wolf, International , Living with HIV, Media, Opinion Pieces

Ed Wolf: "There’s always something you can do, no matter how terrible the moment."

Ed Wolf's journal of the Trump years for April: circles within circles.

Day 30. Honoring Our Experience I’ve headed north for a weekend retreat called “Honoring Our Experience.” It’s going to be three days with many others who survived the early days of the AIDS epidemic, men and women, HIV positive and negative, long term survivors and those who’ve recently seroconverted. I’m looking forward to circling with others who’ve survived great hardship and continue to do so. I’m hoping some of the awfulness I feel about Trump will be lessened, at least

Toronto's Dennis Battler says he's a "Seq Worker". But what does he mean?

published: February, 15, 2017 Written by // Dennis Battler Categories // Yoga, Social Media, Gay Men, General Health, Mental Health, Spirituality, Dennis Battler, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces

Dennis Battler on how staying sane takes work

Toronto's Dennis Battler says he's a

Asked recently how I spend my time, a clear simple answer was hardly suitable. Yet to offer an accurate statement would take the entire evening. Spending the next few days pondering a succinct reply, irony speaks most loudly in my ear. Ready for the next time this question comes up, "Seq Worker" will be the response. Confusing and throwing the inquirer off balance – off balance because, firstly they would have to admit they know the term; secondly because they would be astonished to be in t

Strategies for forgetting about HIV

published: February, 09, 2017 Written by // Félix Garmendía Categories // Gay Men, Mental Health, Health, Spirituality, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Population Specific , Félix Garmendía

“What do I do to forget HIV?” asks New Yorker Felix Garmendia. And what do YOU do?

Strategies for forgetting about HIV

What do I do to forget HIV?  Interesting question.  I’m going to go out on a limb and say, “I HAVE HIV but HIV is NOT me”. We all have days when we don’t want to remember we are HIV-positive. When I am confronted with my HIV, I have learned to look at it in the eye and embrace the fact that we are deeply intertwined. I do this every single day. 1.  I DO IT when I wake up in the morning and have to wait for my HIV-positive husband Denis to help me get into my wheelchair. I have be

World AIDS Day; Normalizing the conversation

published: December, 16, 2016 Written by // Louis "Kengi" Carr - L.A. Correspondent Categories // Community Events, African, Caribbean and Black, Social Media, Activism, Gay Men, International , Spirituality, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Louis "Kengi" Carr

Our L. A. correspondent Kengi on a Black church World AIDS Day event like nothing he's ever witnessed; Honoring those we've lost by focusing on how we can help those living with HIV.

World AIDS Day; Normalizing the conversation

I must be honest and say that I normally skip Word AIDS Day events because they all tend to be too sad and if I’m going to be honest, they also tend to be very boring. Maybe this is because I’m an activist and I hear the information all the time. It certainly isn’t because I don’t care. I just think there are far better ways to honor those we’ve lost than by crying, marching and lighting candles. This year my friend Donta asked me if I would cover (photograph) a World AIDS Day event

The Holiday Horror Show – The Long Haul

published: December, 14, 2016 Written by // Dennis Battler Categories // Social Media, Gay Men, Pets, Spirituality, Dennis Battler, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces

As his first post for PositiveLite.com, Dennis Battler recounts tales of Christmas past and the difficulty of coming out poz to family at such a time.

The Holiday Horror Show – The Long Haul

As a kid wandering the Plaza – we’re talking pre-mall years – I’d run into Santa handing out candy canes to other children – "other" being the operative word. Being the son of the Candy Shop Maven did not, in my world, preclude me from being given a candy cane by Santa. Plaza-Santa apparently did. Sensitive, bright and abundantly precocious, I experienced this prejudiced exclusion as a direct personal attack. Being denied a candy cane, excluded from the world of myth and legend, by S

Facing bereavement in HIV work: why is it so hard to say goodbye?

published: December, 07, 2016 Written by // Megan DePutter Categories // Spirituality, Living with HIV, Megan DePutter, Opinion Pieces

Megan DePutter on the bereavement that often comes with HIV work: "We are left, without ritual, without comment, without community, without closure."

Facing bereavement in HIV work: why is it so hard to say goodbye?

I have been nervously anticipating this year’s World AIDS Day. It’s always a busy time of year for those of us who work or volunteer in the field, and it’s always one of mixed emotions, for many of us. But this year’s event is particularly unnerving to me, bringing a mixture of anxiety and relief. That’s because World AIDS Day is the only socially acceptable time for me to acknowledge, recognize and maybe even grieve the lives of people I knew, and cared about, who were living with H

Religion + gay sex = guilt?

published: September, 21, 2016 Written by // Guest Authors - Revolving Door Categories // Social Media, Gay Men, Youth, Current Affairs, Mental Health, Sexual Health, Revolving Door, International , Spirituality, Guest Authors, Opinion Pieces

"Religion has a part to play in society, of that I’m sure. But the relationship between religion and the LGBT community needs to be examined," says FS Magazine's Mark Reed

Religion + gay sex = guilt?

This article by Mark Reed originally appeared in FS Magazine, a publication of GMFA, here.  “As a devout Roman Catholic I know I’m committing a mortal sin which must be confessed. It's difficult to square that with the concept that God made me who I am, what I am, have a divine purpose, and more importantly, isn’t answering my prayers to be free from this sexual self or give this former husband and father a more acceptable outlet.” - Randy, USA via FS porn survey 2016 Last year, th

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