Pets

Seeking and finding unconditional love

published: September, 11, 2017 Written by // Patrick Italo Ettenes Categories // Social Media, African, Caribbean and Black, Gay Men, Mental Health, Pets, International , Living with HIV, Media, Opinion Pieces, Patrick Italo Ettenes

Patrick Ettenes on the healing power of the love between a person and their pet.

Seeking and finding unconditional love

Many of you might have been wondering where I disappeared to in the last few months. Truth be told, after my best friend's death I wasn’t really in the right place. I also gave up TV production to concentrate on my new diagnosis, my early onset dementia. Like a trooper I pushed forward, accomplishing more in four months than I ever did for the entire year. And I still am, but I’ll let you into a few personal secrets, so sit down. I felt like I’d done enough with HIV work; I was tired of

Learning to make friends with uncertainty

published: July, 24, 2017 Written by // Dennis Battler Categories // Social Media, Gay Men, Pets, Dennis Battler, Living with HIV, Media, Opinion Pieces

Dennis Battler on dealing with the uncertainty that arises when someone we love is threatened.

Learning to make friends with uncertainty

... we had a visit from Pat (no writing group for me today). Shanti was quite normal except for heavy breathing. Tried various food, he did eat some - crazy combination of tuna and plain cookie. Brief walk to Pet Valu where he enthusiastically pleaded staff for treats and won. His breathing is way too laboured.  Posted pics to FB of his pre-vet visit state and post- vet visit state, with Pat warmly and lovingly spooning him the tuna-cookie treat of the day.  Spoke with my friend Kari in

The importance of staying busy

published: March, 23, 2017 Written by // Louis "Kengi" Carr - L.A. Correspondent Categories // Aging, Social Media, African, Caribbean and Black, Activism, Gay Men, Mental Health, Photography, Pets, International , Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Louis "Kengi" Carr

Our L.A. correspondent Kengi deals with bereavement and stress by keeping busy - and does some great work in the process.

The importance of staying busy

I’m sitting down to write this post, because on those rare occasions when escaping with my camera for a photography excursion doesn’t seem to work, I then try to relax, calm and center myself by writing. As a backup, I have my candle burning, I really love a nicely scented candle. Damn, if I had some sage this would be perfect. I’m sipping my hot tea and my little Daisy has pulled her blanket off the sofa, placing it right next to my work space. She’s the dog that loves to be close to

Lots to be thankful for and lots to challenge us as 2017 opens.

published: January, 25, 2017 Written by // Louis "Kengi" Carr - L.A. Correspondent Categories // Community Events, Social Media, African, Caribbean and Black, Gay Men, Current Affairs, Photography, Pets, Health, International , Treatment, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Louis "Kengi" Carr

Our L.A. guy Kengi says 2017 is sure to be a challenging year.

Lots to be thankful for and lots to challenge us as 2017 opens.

As I sit down to write this entry I do so with a heavy heart, but a spirit that is encouraged. I say this because my Great Aunt is still not doing well and last night I received word that one of her daughters, my cousin, has suffered a stroke. They both are recovering in separate hospitals. Your good thoughts, affirmations and prayers are greatly appreciated. I’m encouraged and even comforted because I know God, my creator, will provide what is best for them both. So, I guess I should say H

The Holiday Horror Show – The Long Haul

published: December, 14, 2016 Written by // Dennis Battler Categories // Social Media, Gay Men, Pets, Spirituality, Dennis Battler, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces

As his first post for PositiveLite.com, Dennis Battler recounts tales of Christmas past and the difficulty of coming out poz to family at such a time.

The Holiday Horror Show – The Long Haul

As a kid wandering the Plaza – we’re talking pre-mall years – I’d run into Santa handing out candy canes to other children – "other" being the operative word. Being the son of the Candy Shop Maven did not, in my world, preclude me from being given a candy cane by Santa. Plaza-Santa apparently did. Sensitive, bright and abundantly precocious, I experienced this prejudiced exclusion as a direct personal attack. Being denied a candy cane, excluded from the world of myth and legend, by S

Pets and living with HIV: Rodney and me

published: April, 28, 2016 Written by // Rob Olver - Editor Categories // Pets, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Rob Olver - Editor

Peterborough, Ontario’s Robert Olver tells us why animals are good for you and says “If I could make any recommendation at all to someone diagnosed with HIV or to anyone else for that matter, it would be this: love someone.” Or something.

Pets and living with HIV: Rodney and me

"But I am saying that if they offer you the chance, then love them for what they are and care for them for all you’re worth." In the spirit of full disclosure I should let you know that living with HIV is only one piece of my particular puzzle. You see, I also live with depression, C. O. P. D., a vascular disruption to my legs and the onset of old age. Luckily for me, I also live with the two handsome devils pictured.  I’d like you to meet Little One (l) and Rodney (r). Little One was n

Losing Hope

published: February, 05, 2016 Written by // Guest Authors - Revolving Door Categories // Pets, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Revolving Door, Guest Authors

A powerful and moving post from Poz.com “Pets can be underestimated on the difference they make in people's lives.” So what happens to our own lives when they pass away?

Losing Hope

The full text of this article by Aundaray Guess first appeared on POZ.com here.   I recently experienced two deaths within a week. It was the passing of my dogs, Hope and Parker. I had them since they were puppies and so I was able to create so many memories and experiences with them both. As I write this I fully understand that people may question what does losing a pet have to do with a HIV blog and there may be those who question about writing about the death of a dog. After all it was

The dogs in his life

published: September, 28, 2015 Written by // Louis "Kengi" Carr - L.A. Correspondent Categories // Pets, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Louis "Kengi" Carr

Pets can be super important to people living with HIV. Our LA guy Kengi loves His Dodger and Daisy and asks “why can’t humans be more like dogs?”

The dogs in his life

For as long as I can remember there has been a dog in my life. It’s just that they were much bigger dogs. To say that I’m a dog lover would be a huge understatement. I’ve had some pretty awesome dogs in my lifetime, but Dodger and Daisy are far different from the others dogs I’ve had the honor of owning. From the first day I met Dodger over five years ago there was something special about him. As I’ve written about before Dodger was a foster dog, I wanted a boxer, but this little ma

Not saying no

published: April, 02, 2015 Categories // Dating, Gay Men, Pets, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Population Specific , Sex and Sexuality

Our Positively Dating has a new male in his life. But it hasn’t stopped him from no longer saying “no” to others.

Not saying no

I have been living my life even more like a hermit since becoming a single dad of the sweetest pitbull pup. I finally had a real excuse not to go out - “Oh I’m sorry I have to go home and walk the dog.” I would stay at home alone with my trusty pup and all was right with the world. Well…all was right except for my love life.  Roughly two months ago, when we had our first glimmer of nice weather and, before we got another load of snow dumped on us, I caught a bit pf spring fever. I ma

Oh Happy (puppy) Day

published: March, 30, 2015 Written by // Brian Finch - Founder Categories // Gay Men, Pets, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Brian Finch

The ultimate in gay: Brian Finch now owns not one but two chihuahuas. They are good for him too.

Oh Happy (puppy) Day

Thirteen years old, disappointed that my dad had forgotten to pick me up to spend the weekend with him (my parents are divorced), I light up my sister’s joint. This is the first time I get high. Sure enough fifteen minutes later he comes knocking on the door. The room is filled with smoke and stinks.  Did I forget that he’s a custom’s officer?  I’m completely blasted and paranoid as he takes me to a dog show. He is breeding Bearded Collies with his “stud” entered.   Feeling

A growing family

published: March, 03, 2015 Categories // Gay Men, Pets, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Population Specific

Awww! Meet Chuck. Our David Phillips on how a new pet changes everything

A growing family

On the evening of February 11 at the start of a snowstorm, my husband and I welcomed into our home Chuck, a 6 year old boy from central Virginia who had been in the care of a foster family nearby. Before Craig and I married, even before we were engaged, we had talked many times about enlarging our family; and the time had seemed right for a while. We had met with several local organizations about adoption since late November, and we had finally come upon one group as eager to work with us as

Season’s greetings

published: December, 11, 2014 Written by // Bob Leahy - Publisher Categories // Arts and Entertainment, Pets, Photography, Travel, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Bob Leahy - Publisher

Bob Leahy and his dogs on doing what doesn’t come naturally, pet photography and Christmas spent away from home

Season’s greetings

Let’s face it. Truth be told, warm and fuzzies aside, Christmas is about doing stuff you don’t really want to do but do anyway. Because it’s Christmas.  Don’t deny it, you know exactly what I mean. True, Christmas has more than its share of good things, even more if you are under five, but you don’t have to have the bah humbugs to understand that set against all this erstwhile merriment and mirth is a whole list of things we’d rather not be doing. No more is this the case than i

Pets and vets

published: October, 20, 2014 Written by // Bob Leahy - Publisher Categories // Pets, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Bob Leahy - Publisher

Bob Leahy on what happens when animals discover they are at the vet's office

Pets and vets

It’s apparent that pets are important to many people living with HIV.  It’s also apparent that pets do people living with HIV a world of good, which fact we’ve covered extensively in the past, but that’s another story.  So what happens when your pet gets sick, or even needs a routine examination, or shots perhaps, and a visit to the vets office is called for. Does pet panic set in? Sometimes that visit’s a piece of cake. Sometimes it’s not. This post is mostly about when it

Becoming a daddy

published: October, 09, 2014 Categories // Dating, Gay Men, Pets, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Population Specific

Our hereto single Positively Dating says, hands down, he‘s landed on the best relationship he has had in years. The lucky individual’s name? Mr. Bingley.

Becoming a daddy

Recently my world shifted from the mid-thirties to the late thirties. I’ve never really cared about it because age is just a number, right? I mean, I’m in the best shape of my life and look better than people much, much younger.  My age never crossed my mind until a random twink who wasn’t even old enough to witness the most important sporting event of my youth  - the Tanya Harding, Nancy Kerrigan kerfuffle! - called me a ”Daddy”.  A Daddy? Really? When I think of a “Daddy”,

My daily journey with HIV – and Lobo

published: September, 09, 2014 Written by // Joshua Middleton Categories // Pets, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Joshua Middleton

Joshua Middleton on the benefits of pets – in his case an 18-month old Samoyed called Lobo – in providing support for people living with HIV

My daily journey with HIV – and Lobo

Going through an HIV diagnosis can be tough and living with it daily is no walk in the park, however there are numerous ways to cope and lift ones spirits. As I have mentioned before iin a previous post it is important to surround yourself with a support network of those going through the same thing, whether that be in person or online, as well as a group of affected people who are there to offer unconditional support. This support system is so important to our survival because regardless of

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