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The RELENT-LIST (The Top Ten from this week's MILK Sunday) 8-2-10

published: August, 03, 2010 Categories // Arts and Entertainment

The Top Ten from this week's MILK Sunday

1) OMG (DJ Class Remix)-Usher featuring Will.I.Am, DJ Class & Fatman Scoop 2) We No Speak Americano (Damon Paul Remix)-Yolanda Be Cool & D-Cup 3) California Gurls (Joey B. East Coast Remix)-Katy Perry featuring Snoop Dogg 4) Play Di Ting (The Heatwave Refix)-Natalie Storm & Footstep 5) Your Love (Mike D's Tropical Reggae Blendz Mix)-Nicki Minaj featuring Gyptian 6) Find Your Love (Mike D's Tropical Blendz Mix)-Drake featuring Shaggy 7) Vanity (DJ Fierce Tease Cocky Mix

Jakey G is Stalking Me!

I have heard from the friend of the daughter of a friend of mine (not directly – through the chain of contacts, of course!)...

Jakey G is Stalking Me!

I have heard from the friend of the daughter of a friend of mine (not directly – through the chain of contacts, of course!) that Jake Gyllenhaal is in Montréal and will be here for a year! This friend twice removed works at the local Scotiabank Cinema and apparently sighted him on Sunday evening. Wait a second, I think to myself, I was there on Sunday evening. He must be following me! Now I'm pretty sure that he was not seeing the same film as I, or would at least be as embarrassed to admi

Foiled Again!

It's that day again. March 1st, or, more accurately, the first business day after the last day of February. The deadline for RRSP contributions.

  It's that day again. March 1st, or, more accurately, the first business day after the last day of February. The deadline for RRSP contributions. (For non-Canadians reading this, it is the last day to contribute to your Registered Retirement Savings Plan – a tax shelter to encourage retirement savings – before filing your taxes for 2009.) As someone who has mostly worked in underpaid community organization settings through my professional years, I really never had the excess resources t

Out of Practice

I think I'm two steps away from having to return my toaster. You know? The one I got when I came out.

I think I'm two steps away from having to return my toaster. You know? The one I got when I came out. Oh, you didn't get a snazzy hip toaster like this one when you came out? You'll have to file your complaint with customer service. Having always had the conventional view of what "Use it or lose it" might mean, I thought I was sheltered from the loss by my *ahem* private creative activities. As it turns out, the impending loss is not anatomical, and may be more retrospective than impending!

Early Summer

Phew! The temperatures are now returning to something more like normal. This is a big relief to me, because I am totally unprepared for summer.

Early Summer

Phew! The temperatures are now returning to something more like normal. This is a big relief to me, because I am totally unprepared for summer. More than a question of rotating the seasonal wardrobes from their cool storage to my closet and back, this has become a question of having to foresee new purchases when the temperatures change. This is not because of the new rules that are now being applied to competitive swimming, diminishing the role of the borg suit, even limiting the amount and ty

Sex Trade Volunteer

published: April, 25, 2010 Categories // Sex and Sexuality

We have all done this. Not the work – mind you, we have all done that, too – I am talking about the naming of it.

Sex Trade Volunteer

We have all done this. Not the work – mind you, we have all done that, too – I am talking about the naming of it. Who among us has not, either in seriousness or in jest, called a friend a tramp or an acquaintance a whore, all to denote the other's – uh – sexual 'productivity'? I have a rather creative friend, an active participant in the writerly arts, who went so far into his thesaurus as to trot out 'doxy' on more than one occasion. This sprang back to mind for me recently when I s

Barbershop Etiquette

I went off one afternoon this week and got my hair cut. We know by the title of this post that I didn't go to some kind of fancy hair salon, and neither did I go to the little bike shop up the street ...

I went off one afternoon this week and got my hair cut. We know by the title of this post that I didn't go to some kind of fancy hair salon, and neither did I go to the little bike shop up the street that has been advertising "Lesbian haircuts" in the window for years. No, I went to the barbershop on the other side of downtown that I started frequenting – paradoxically – when I moved away from it. There's been movement in the chairs at my barbershop over the years. From the early days o

Sparse

published: May, 30, 2010 Categories // Living with HIV

Alas, my postings of late have been few and far between, but this situation is about to get worse for the next couple of weeks!

Sparse

Alas, my postings of late have been few and far between, but this situation is about to get worse for the next couple of weeks! I have been all preoccupied with my organisation's annual general meeting for the last couple of weeks. I am glad to be able to report that this multi-day extravaganza is now over, with some very positive moments (if you'll pardon the pun) and I am headed off to spend some time with my family in the interior of British Columbia. I count myself lucky to have a very sup

Sheltered

published: June, 19, 2010 Categories // Health

I don't expect us all to have a common position on the issues of the day, and I am seldom disappointed on this front. Two of my siblings don't get the idea behind harm reduction and sound a bit like our Prime Minister...

Sheltered

On my recent visit to BC, apart from the official business of the family gathering, I had plenty of time to spend with my Dad and my siblings. I don't expect us all to have a common position on the issues of the day, and I am seldom disappointed on this front. Two of my siblings don't get the idea behind harm reduction and sound a bit like our Prime Minister when talking about needle exchanges or supervised injection sites, despite not being on his page on numerous other issues. The thing that

Urbane?

While I’m not entirely comfortable with the term urbane as a component of my website moniker, I’m hoping that others will see that it is not meant to suggest anything even remotely elitist.

While I’m not entirely comfortable with the term urbane as a component of my website moniker, I’m hoping that others will see that it is not meant to suggest anything even remotely elitist. In fact, I chose this, quite simply, in an effort to reflect the way I tend to think, to talk and to write – in a somewhat obsessively polished manner, and very often to a fault. At the same time, I am hoping that this will nonetheless bring something appreciable to this site – and I’m grateful t

The POZ Vernacular

published: April, 24, 2010 Categories // Health

As a self-professed wordsmith, I have always been fascinated by words, by language and by how and why we communicate with one another as we do.

As a self-professed wordsmith, I have always been fascinated by words, by language and by how and why we communicate with one another as we do. As such, a rather mundane posting on Facebook the other day got me thinking about how and why gay men (in particular) use the words they do and why so many of us tend to speak in certain terms. Now it should come as no surprise that the drawing of parallels between straight women and gay men abound, but it seems to me that there’s more to this tha

"My" Problem with American Idol

published: May, 28, 2010 Categories // Arts and Entertainment, Television

debated over this posting -- and, in fact, thought for a moment that it represented little more than my own personal bias. I am now convinced it does not...

I debated over this posting -- and, in fact, thought for a moment that it represented little more than my own personal bias. I am now convinced it does not -- and much of this deep-seated discomfort, if not resentment, comes from spending almost half my life living in the United States. And it may be even more pronounced given the fact that I lived in or what "was" arguably one of the more liberal-democratic states -- CALIFORNIA. Long story short, no far how the various contestants in this "h

Waxing Nostalgic

published: June, 24, 2010 Categories // Living with HIV

Being on vacation this last week has been something I apparently needed more than I knew. I know that most people, and I will include myself here, see vacations as indulgent

Being on vacation this last week has been something I apparently needed more than I knew. I know that most people, and I will include myself here, see vacations as indulgent -- and for some, they seem downright unnecessary. Admittedly, I always feel a little guilty jetting off to some exotic locale to do little more than eat, drink, and lie on the beach -- but this time seems to have brought a revelation, albeit an unintended one to say the least. In one sense, it is an incredibly simple obser

Change is in the air...F*** ME!!!

’ve been away for a while, not by choice but as a consequence of changing circumstances in my life. I have little doubt that I’ll make the appropriate...

     I’ve been away for a while, not by choice but as a consequence of changing circumstances in my life. I have little doubt that I’ll make the appropriate (and, I hope, effective) transitions, but these changes have reminded me of just how intimately intertwined the various elements and spheres of our lives actually are. Not to mention how complicated these interconnections can be to manage -- despite the fact that most of us try to keep these things simplified and separate as we mov

The Shackles of HIV Infection...fact or fiction...???

published: August, 06, 2010 Categories // Health, Living with HIV

Of late, I have been struggling (no grappling) with the extent of control I have over my life. As I noted in an earlier post, my of this reflection has been the result of some major changes in my life.

Of late, I have been struggling (no grappling) with the extent of control I have over my life. As I noted in an earlier post, my of this reflection has been the result of some major changes in my life. And, I admit, my default mode has been to look to my HIV status as some means to account for -- if not find solace in -- my feelings of powerlessness. After all, I am no longer twenty-five, I am no longer new to world of employment and I'm certainly not as well-established as I might have expect

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