Mark S. King

Mark S. King

Mark S. King and his very funny site "My Fabulous Disease" must share some DNA with Positive Lite, because his light-hearted approach to living with HIV feels just like family. "My Fabulous Disease" has the authority of Mark's lifelong HIV activism mixed with the wit of your favorite gay uncle.

Bridging the HIV Viral Divide with Friendship

published: July, 31, 2012 Written by // Mark S. King - My Fabulous Disease Categories // Living with HIV, Mark S. King

Mark S King on mixed status friendships: “Lynne Rhys and I were never supposed to become friends. It was just too unlikely.”

Bridging the HIV Viral Divide with Friendship

She is a divorced woman raising a teenaged daughter, and was barely aware of a “gay community” until she stepped tentatively out of the closet in midlife. She has a quiet and soft-spoken grace. She has manners. She readily burdens the blame if it means saving your feelings. She’s one of those people who apologize when I miss a turn while driving us somewhere, as if it must have been her fault.  When she walked into an audition for a play I was directing a few years ago, she was certain

Is “Dawson’s 20 Load Weekend” the Most Important Gay Porn Film Ever Made?

published: July, 26, 2012 Written by // Mark S. King - My Fabulous Disease Categories // Gay Men, Arts and Entertainment, Movies, Health, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Population Specific , Sex and Sexuality , Mark S. King

No condoms. Mark S. King with an important essay on the role of bareback porn in gay men’s sexual health, then and now.

Is “Dawson’s 20 Load Weekend” the Most Important Gay Porn Film Ever Made?

The annual Folsom Street Fair in San Francisco is noted for its unbridled embrace of every star in our sexual constellation. Even the fearless leather community that founded the event can sometimes appear tame amidst the outlandish kinks and clothing – and lack thereof – on display along the city’s tilted streets. In the middle of this rowdy bacchanalia in the fall of 2003, Paul Morris stood at the booth for Treasure Island Media (TIM), the gay porn outfit he founded that features unpro

The Stupid Question: “Are You Clean?”

published: June, 28, 2012 Written by // Mark S. King - My Fabulous Disease Categories // Dating, Gay Men, Health, Sexual Health, Lifestyle, Opinion Pieces, Population Specific , Mark S. King

Mark S. King on the dumbest question of all. Insulting too.

The Stupid Question: “Are You Clean?”

I took a shower this morning. I am clean. I might work out at the gym later, or maybe the trash bag will break on the way outside and I will scoop up coffee grounds and put them back into the bag. I will then be dirty. I will shower again. And I will be clean.  Anyone who questions whether or not HIV stigma is on the rise need look no further than online profiles and hookup sites, in which “Are you clean?” is asked with infuriating regularity. Or perhaps you have suffered the indignity o

The Crystal Meth Connection of the Gay Porn Killer

published: June, 14, 2012 Written by // Mark S. King - My Fabulous Disease Categories // Gay Men, Current Affairs, Opinion Pieces, Population Specific , Sex and Sexuality , Mark S. King

A shockingly honest post from Mark S. King who draws the dots between Canadian accused killer Luka Magnotta, Mark’s own struggle with crystal meth addiction and the very dark places it can take you to.

The Crystal Meth Connection of the Gay Porn Killer

I knew it. I felt it. It was as clear as the incessant call of crystal meth itself, on those nights when a seductive phantom of the drug cozies up to me in bed and brings its knitting. In a Huffington Post news article on accused killer Luka Rocco Magnotta, buried in the story pages deep, a former lover says that the alleged murderer used methamphetamine, the drug popular among gay men that has claimed years of my life and left countless men in utter wreckage. The story of the Canadian “lo

Coming Out with Donna Summer

published: May, 27, 2012 Written by // Mark S. King - My Fabulous Disease Categories // Arts and Entertainment, Gay Men, Music, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Population Specific , Mark S. King

Mark S. King remembers a musical icon that earned a treasured place in gay history

Coming Out with Donna Summer

The music my friends liked when I was a teenager intimidated me. It was the head-banging rock of the early seventies, and it felt alien and unappetizing. Most of all, it just felt… straight, in a way I knew I could never be. Alone in my room, I listened to my beloved Broadway musicals, and resigned myself to the fact that popular music would never really speak to me. And then in 1977, when I was sixteen years old, I began sneaking into the only gay bar in Shreveport, Louisiana. Inside I fou

Remembering, and Saying Her Name

published: April, 13, 2012 Written by // Mark S. King - My Fabulous Disease Categories // Social Media, Gay Men, Living with HIV, Media, Population Specific , Mark S. King

Mark S. King on his blogging career with TheBody.com, the woman who helped him start and a look back at his very first video effort.

Remembering, and Saying Her Name

In the Summer of 2008, I received a curious package from Bonnie Goldman, the editor of TheBody.com. Inside was a Flip video camera, what was then a new-fangled device that allowed you to take video footage with a camera the size of a pack of cigarettes. It came with a simple note. “I think you should try this,” it said. How did she know? I wondered. I had never mentioned to her that I once taped a special for my newborn niece, back when video cameras were the size of footballs and editin

The Unfortunate Pursuits of the Idle Blogger

published: April, 06, 2012 Written by // Mark S. King - My Fabulous Disease Categories // Arts and Entertainment, Gay Men, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Population Specific , Sex and Sexuality , Mark S. King

Writer Mark S. King is asked to critique some “gay erotic fiction” aka porn sent to him. “Using standard literary analysis felt like watching a skin flick and wondering if the wooden floors they’re flailing around on are bamboo.”

The Unfortunate Pursuits of the Idle Blogger

Being a writer is not without its perks. I can’t exactly name one at the moment, but I’m certain they exist. Hold it, here’s one. Starting sentences with “Being a writer…” Oh, and receiving gay erotic fiction from a guy who wants feedback on his work. This morning as I chomped down my Raisin Bran Crunch, I opened email from an aspiring writer and read his gay sex story called “Jason’s Awakening.” The title has kind of a grand sweep, don’t you think? Very English Patient. O

Dealing with Shame can be a Drag

published: March, 25, 2012 Written by // Mark S. King - My Fabulous Disease Categories // Arts and Entertainment, Gay Men, Performances, Living with HIV, Population Specific , Mark S. King

Mark S. King says “Being a drag queen, even for a night, terrified and delighted me. But the performer in me won out, wouldn’t you know, and Anita Mann was born.” The rest is history!

Dealing with Shame can be a Drag

We’re born naked… and the rest is drag.” — RuPaul When I was nine years old, I took my parents’ album of the Broadway musical “Damn Yankees” and memorized every syllable of Gwen Verdon’s show stopper, “Who’s Got the Pain When They Do the Mambo?” Once I was satisfied with my lip-synching and choreography (I decided that a mambo was a dance in which young boys gyrated and flung themselves on and off the living room sofa), the number was ready for public display. The premi

Living with Hep C

published: February, 24, 2012 Written by // Mark S. King - My Fabulous Disease Categories // Hep B and C, Gay Men, Health, Living with HIV, Population Specific , Mark S. King

Mark S King has been there. But he says “The good news, thank God, is that the treatment plan worked, and I cleared hepatitis C from my body. There has been no recurrence. “

Living with Hep C

The image in my mind has never left me, even after many years of trying, of applying layers of wallpaper to that corner of my mind. I am in someone’s bedroom — it could have been anyone, really — and I am offered a syringe to inject crystal meth. The syringe has been used. I take it. I consider the consequences for a brief moment, but I am cavalier. And very, very high. I use the syringe. It wasn’t the threat of HIV that gave me pause. It was hepatitis C, which I knew was serious… a

HIV Criminalization Face-Off: One Poz Man and His Accuser

published: February, 13, 2012 Written by // Mark S. King - My Fabulous Disease Categories // Activism, Legal, Living with HIV, Mark S. King

Mark S. King” What if you could witness a face-to-face confrontation between a man living with HIV and the sex partner accusing him of not revealing his status? Wouldn’t you like to be a fly on that wall?

HIV Criminalization Face-Off: One Poz Man and His Accuser

The fireworks could be mighty, as emotions raged between the furious accuser and the positive person trying to defend his actions. What might that meeting look like, exactly? In this video, you’re about to find out. Amidst the highly charged emotions of the HIV criminalization debate, “sides” are developing. One side believes that those with HIV who do not tell their sex partners about their status should go to jail. Period. But others claim that there is little public health benefit t

On Milford, and Finding Home Again

published: January, 21, 2012 Written by // Mark S. King - My Fabulous Disease Categories // Activism, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Mark S. King

After his break-up, Mark S. King is visiting renowned POZ founder, activist Sean Strub. Here is his portrait of the small town life that Mark discovers Sean Strub is an integral part of – and his tale of looking for drag queens there.

On Milford, and Finding Home Again

Even in darkness, in the bitter cold of northern Pennsylvania on a January night, the town of Milford can’t help displaying its charm. I’m walking through Main Street and the shops splash warm light in my path as strolling shoppers offer smiles and salutations. This isn’t a night for shopping, however. It’s Bingo Night, and I am making my way down a side street for the local church. I follow the sounds of a boisterous crowd that lead me to the fellowship hall. The tables in the small

The ‘My Fabulous Disease’ Holiday Spectacular!

published: December, 17, 2011 Written by // Mark S. King - My Fabulous Disease Categories // Gay Men, Living with HIV, Population Specific , Mark S. King

Mark S. King wanted to call this “A Very Diseased Christmas” . But it’s a lovely post, it really is. The video will move and inspire you. Mark, we love you!

The ‘My Fabulous Disease’ Holiday Spectacular!

My mother’s home here in Shreveport, Louisiana, was fraught with excitement last week. Christmas decorations littered the living room, the almond scent of cookies filled the air, and last minute phone calls and arrangements made it all feel like a major production was underway. And there was. The event that had everyone scrambling was held on a Sunday afternoon, when siblings and extended family arrived for the taping of The ‘My Fabulous Disease’ Holiday Spectacular. Now just take that

The Long Road Home from Relapse

published: December, 11, 2011 Written by // Mark S. King - My Fabulous Disease Categories // Gay Men, Living with HIV, Population Specific , Mark S. King

Mark S. King: Explaining my relapse is beyond me, beyond logic, and yet here I sit, trying to understand and explain. It maddens me, the choices I have made, and reminds me that the disease most capable of killing me isn’t HIV, it is drug addiction.

The Long Road Home from Relapse

Florida highways have lovely rest stops.You would expect that from the Turnpike, where toll booths charge a premium every so often, but the manicured picnic areas continue even as you drive further north and onto I-75. I’m on a cement bench in a concession area, chomping down corn chips and a Mountain Dew, away from the dog walkers and the families gathered at picnic tables, when I notice that my jeans are gathered sloppily around my waistline, cinched so much tighter than before. How much

Divorce, Stress, HIV – and No Jokes

published: November, 10, 2011 Written by // Mark S. King - My Fabulous Disease Categories // Dating, Gay Men, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Mark S. King

Mark S King goes on the couch to try processing his recent break-up, talks with a friend then gives a nod to PositiveLIte.com

Divorce, Stress, HIV – and No Jokes

  This is a rather personal blog video, there’s no doubt about that. I’m even a little apprehensive because it doesn’t offer the usual helpful tips or the “entertainment value” of my other videos. But one of my problems has always been trying to be the life of the party when I’m not feeling it. So please allow me to offer you a different Mark than you might be used to, unplugged and exposed. The last few weeks have been tough, I won’t lie to you. My nine-year relationship came

Playing the Last Scene of a Marriage

published: October, 24, 2011 Written by // Mark S. King - My Fabulous Disease Categories // Gay Men, Living with HIV, Mark S. King

Mark S. King hears the words no one wants to hear “I’m not in love with you anymore.”

Playing the Last Scene of a Marriage

He said this at the dinner table as he made the first cut of his steak, a beautiful ribeye he had grilled to perfection. I put down my own knife and fork and stared at him. “This isn’t new, or else you haven’t been listening,” he said, a bit wary of my gaze. “You knew I wasn’t happy a year ago. And we’ve just ignored it.” He took a bite and I hated him for it, for having the digestion for this. I had dropped the butter, that’s how this started. I had been setting the table an

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