I think I'm two steps away from having to return my toaster. You know? The one I got when I came out.
Oh, you didn't get a snazzy hip toaster like this one when you came out? You'll have to file your complaint with customer service.
Having always had the conventional view of what "Use it or lose it" might mean, I thought I was sheltered from the loss by my *ahem* private creative activities. As it turns out, the impending loss is not anatomical, and may be more retrospective than impending!
I was at an event last night and had a couple of glances from passing men and I realized that I have completely lost my cruising skills or any sense of what those glances might mean. As I talked about this to a friend afterward, he, too, thought that his first reaction to such a thing as a look would be to look for his keyboard, as most of his cruising is online.
My own loss, alas, is not due to its replacement by some other medium of communication, but due to lack of communication. I am more likely to think that I have something on my face than that someone might be interested in me. I have also had the reaction on the street of thinking "That younger man just gave me a look…I wonder how much he thinks I would pay him?" And that's just sad.
In light of my friend's comments, however, I am more apt to think that the loss of cruising skills is widespread in our community. Not everyone, of course, but those of us who seem to have abandoned the spots where people meet in person, like bars, streets, you know the rest…
I did find an interesting guide to street cruising from Australia (click on the pic below to go there).
Our other great alternative might be technology's way of bringing us back to public spaces: the iphone hanky app.
And in case you're wondering, purple (I'm going to interpret this particular shade as Lavender) means 'likes drag queens' (worn left) or 'drag queen' (worn right). This might be the least necessary colour/orientation combination going, as I would think those interests would be rather obvious most of the time.
So, are your cruising skills still finely honed, or are you as lost as I seem to have become?